Pursuing Biblical Masculinity

Episode 52: The Disciplines of a Godly Husband - Sanctifying Love


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In this episode, the podcast navigates through the profound concept of marital sanctification under the lordship of Christ, inspired by Ephesians 5:25-27 and the insights from "Disciplines of a Godly Man" by Kent Hughes. The scripture highlights the selfless and purifying love Christ has for the church and establishes it as a parallel to how husbands should love their wives.

The episode intricately unfolds the concept of sanctification - a transformative process where God makes sinners holy in heart and conduct. This is depicted as a past, present, and future occurrence: we have been sanctified, are being sanctified, and will be sanctified. The “right now, not yet” paradox of sanctification is emphasized as being pivotal in Christian living and relationships.

Pivoting from the previous episode’s discourse on sacrificial love, the focus here zeros in on the role of a husband in his wife’s sanctification, backed by two primary principles:

  1. Husbands’ Responsibility Towards Wives’ Sanctification:

    • Husbands bear the responsibility of actively contributing to their wives' sanctification, adopting roles that lead, serve, pray, share the gospel, and listen.
    • The act of leading should permeate various aspects, including spiritual (through prayer and Bible study), emotional (by listening), and physical (through service).
    • Despite the challenges, husbands are to undertake this monumental role seriously, acknowledging that genuine accomplishment is possible only in Christ.
    • Husbands’ Response Despite Wives’ Reactions:

      • There is an urge to lead and love without fostering expectations in return. The focus remains on steadfastly contributing to the spiritual growth of the wife.
      • The husband should navigate through the marriage, acknowledging that, like him, his wife is also a sinner but is not an enemy.
      • Consistency in action, finding peace and security in Christ, and leading by example are underscored as imperative.
      • Christ’s sacrifice, aimed at the sanctification and presentation of the church as holy and unblemished, is mirrored as a template for husbands to foster an environment where their wives grow spiritually. A crucial point to note is that while husbands are accountable to seek their wives' sanctification, they are not responsible for their responses or reciprocations.

        The episode ends with a reflective pause, urging listeners to introspect through probing questions: Is your wife more Christ-like because of being married to you or despite it? Are you aiding her sanctification or hindering it? And, what shifts are required in your life to truly embody your call in this domain? This reflective inquiry is not merely rhetorical but is positioned as a catalyst for personal and relational transformation, steering marriages toward sanctification under the Lordship of Christ.

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