This week’s podcast guest Tamara has experienced a lot of trauma in her life (trigger warning: we talk about pregnancy loss, sexual abuse and post-natal depression).

Together, we discuss how healing is a process - not some end-goal that you need to achieve. We also touch upon the importance of having healthy relationships and how small practices can help you create space for healing.

I admire Tamara for her radical honesty and how she uses that to make sure that it’s the best version of herself that keeps showing up in the world and in her family. She’s using her trauma to truly guide others.

Top quotes:

Françoise Molenaar: “The fertility journey can be a healing journey. Maybe there are things that you need to heal before you’re ready to become a mother. But that doesn’t mean that healing is something that you need to achieve, that there’s something that you need to fix before you can continue on with your process. It’s a journey where you touch deeper layers within yourself.”

Tamara: “The mind can also keep you alive when something traumatic happens. To keep your own head above water. When there is enough time, and you feel safe enough, when you surround yourself with people that can truly support you, there’s space to start really feeling.”

Tamara: “The loss of my child showed me that I had to open my heart much more, that I couldn’t control life, that life is too short to postpone, life isn’t perfect, we aren’t perfect but that we can show up in the state that we are now and give what we have.”

Tamara: it isn’t about doing the ayahuasca ceremony, or starting a new diet, or seeing yet another therapist. The first step is accepting what is, where you are right now. Once you start breathing into where you are right now, that’s the only way in which we can start our healing. Because you can also use therapy and spirituality to flee from whatever you’re feeling inside. The first step is acceptance, surrender.

About Tamara:

Tamara is known for her immense inner strength and devotion to inspire others. This way, she has been able to heal her own trauma, surrendering to her soul’s calling: "Spread the word about your life as a living testimony of acceptance, love and surrender. This will be the medicine.” She is an energy worker, facilitator and founder of Mothers of Mothers Foundation the Netherlands. You can find her on Instagram @mind.body.andsoul.treatments