This sounds a little Jennifer Knapp---y so I am sorry in advance if there is a copyright issue (promise I had no song in mind, and am certainly NOT trying to raise myself to her level). I will say this, I have listened to Kansas probably 100 times. That aside our first step in the right direction is the realisation we are capable of going the wrong direction, or that there are even directions (which is the world we live in). This is You/r/re Coming of Age.