In Episode #6, Nelson discusses how your attachment style may be impacting your grief.


Topics in this Episode

• You have an attachment style (0:36)
• It may amplify your grief intensity (1:35)
• Bowlby's "Attachment Theory" (2:07)
• The evolution of Attachment Theory (2:45)
• Anxious-preoccupied attachment (3:46)
• How might an anxious-preoccupied attachment affect your grief? (5:38)
• Fearful-avoidant attachment (6:22)
• How might an fearful-avoidant attachment affect your grief? (7:35)
• What research says (9:07)

Resources

Book: Attachment and Loss: Volume 1 (Bowlby, 1969)
Theory: Comparative View of Attachment Aspects (Ainsworth, 1978)
Theory: Hazan & Shaver (1987)
Theory: Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991)
Study: The Role of Attachment Style in Response to Pet Loss
Study: Relations of Attachment Styles and Current Feelings of Grief
Study: Attachment Theory to Examine Pets as Social Support
Counseling: Companion Animal Loss Therapy (virtual)
Workshops: Grief Therapy in a Box
Events: Homage Retreat


Memorable Quotes

• "Celebrate your ability to trust and love...as you have."

Next Episode: Are the 5 Stages a Myth?


Keywords

#pet loss #companion animal loss #pets #companion animals #family #dogs #cats #horses #attachment style


Biography

Nelson Pahl is an experiential psychologist and leading expert on companion animal loss. He hosts The Pahl Paw Patch podcast and is author of No Time to Grieve: The Disenfranchising of Pet Loss. He maintains a private practice in KCMO and hosts online healing workshops entitled Grief Therapy in a Box, as well as luxury healing retreats called "Homage Retreats."