Zayna and Jonathan get personal this month and talk about insecurity with help from Jamie in Singapore and from Kevin Patterson, author of the excellent book Love's Not Color Blind who joins us on the line from Philadelphia. 

Almost everyone has to deal with insecurity whether they're monogamous or non-monogamous, but within CNM there can be extra pressures because our partners are free to date other people and we compare ourselves unfavourably to their other loves. 

Jamie talks about insecurities arising out of trust issues with a former partner, Kevin speaks about imposter syndrome, Jonathan about the experience of being an adoptee and Zayna about feeling less-than in her professional field.