Asha Dornfest is one of those special OG blogger friends who went on to provide real-life support in both of our real-life lives. You can tell from her writing that she has one of those minds you can trust your troubles to.

That community-building mind created Parent Hacks and co-created the Edit Your Life podcast withChristine Koh, and her third act is Parent of Adults, a Substack newsletter about missing her adult children, fulfilling bucket-list plans with her husband, and making the most of the time she and her mom have left together.

Asha says she really “hadn’t been operating properly” since her father died right before the pandemic hit, in part because of the kid fears that had manifested so abruptly. When she talks about writing her dad’s obituary, selling her childhood home, and moving her mom from the Bay Area to a retirement community in Portland, she still marvels at how this self-described “fake grownup” was able to pull it all off.

Asha planned the mother/daughter road-trips to ease her mom’s transition through monumental life changes and jumpstart their new normal as new neighbors. But the trips’ other vital benefits were far less expected.

Other links:

* Follow Asha on Instagram

* Start reading Being Mortal by Atul Gawande TODAY

* Dick Van Dyke remembers when Mary Tyler Moore was cast as Laura Petrie

* “Save your favorite dildo—but throw away the other 15!”

* How many Christmas cards will you get with gay cardinals on them?

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