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Read your wife’s mind

K- intro, so what on earth do you mean when you say you can teach people to read minds?

D- mentalists

K- reminder that the point of this is not entertainment but it’s how we should be loving our spouse. 

K- THE KEY IS INFORMATION!!!

1. Ask questions- read the room, don’t assume, and get more information by asking husband or wife what was the best or most difficult part of your day? 
2. Listen- listen without fixing! If she tells you a frustration she had with coworkers- don’t defend them. Listen without distractions. Listen with empathy & acknowledge the hurt or frustration they are feeling. 

AMAZING TRICK- when you are listening stop prepping what you are going to say! Just listen (while looking at them). 

1.  Clarify- clarity is the secret sauce! Maybe summarize what u think you heard your person just say. Ask if there’s anything you can do to help- don’t assume 
2. Take action- once you hear what they want, try to make that happen for them! Maybe that means setting up a bubble bath for them to relax. Maybe it means you figure out a dinner plan. Maybe you take the kids to the park to give your person a break. 
3. Remember expectations- knowing your spouses expectations helps avoid unnecessary tension. How do we know their expectations? WE ASK!! A new pattern we recommend- touch base on the phone on the way home. 

K- story of kids little & those phone calls 

D- so the challenge for this week is… next time, we are going to talk about scripts in your marriage.

 See ya then