(In)fertility can really damage your most important relationships: those you have with your partner, your family, your closest friends. Maybe they don’t know how to give you the support you need, maybe they are moving on with their lives in a direction where you cannot follow them, maybe they are really insensitive. Or all of the above… On this episode of the podcast, I discuss how the relationship with my entire family recently blew up and the steps I am taking to slowly repair that. I take you through the steps that I’ve used to create space for my pain and look at what I need to heal in myself so that I can show up from a place of love. Probably some of the most powerful work in the world!

Top quotes:

“When a situation with your family, with your friends, with your partner, when it really blows up, when you cannot find each other anymore, what usually happens is that you are stuck in these automatic responses. There is this deep pain that's being touched and we are not very good at that. At voicing that, at saying, look, this is what's happening with me. This is a core wound of mine that's now being touched.”

“What always happens in these types of conflicts, is that people go back to their really basic responses of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Those are your basic survival responses.”

“when you're stuck in such a difficult dynamic, it can be really easy to go into your head and start thinking about what you should do to fix it. But that's a lot of ‘doing’ again, and when we're so stuck in a doing mode we often lose the benefit and the value that's there in the ‘being’ mode. So when you're stuck in a situation like this, when a relationship has blown up, rather than trying to fix it straight away, go to the place of not knowing how to fix it.”