We go into the holiday season hoping for joy, peace, and connection — but often end up feeling stressed, disappointed, or frustrated instead. Why? Because behind our holiday “hopes” often live hidden expectations.

In this heartfelt episode, Trisha shares what happens when we let go of those expectations — of our loved ones, of ourselves, and of what the holidays “should” look like — and instead choose connection over control.

Through real stories, relatable moments, and a powerful reflection on what she calls “the emotional scorecard,” Trisha invites you to release the mental scripts that keep you stuck in frustration and discover the peace that comes when you simply allow people (and moments) to be what they are.

1️⃣ Who are you silently expecting to act differently this holiday season?
2️⃣ How would it feel to love them exactly as they are, without trying to manage or fix them?
3️⃣ What would happen if you set down your invisible scorecard and simply chose presence over perfection?

Before your next family gathering, take a few minutes to write down what you’re expecting from others.
Then ask yourself, “Is this something I can control?”
If not, practice releasing it — and replace it with a prayer like:

“God, help me love them as they are, not as I wish they were.”

“You can’t be curious and controlling at the same time.”
“Unspoken expectations often turn into silent resentments.”
“Keeping score never leads to connection — it leads to exhaustion.”
“The holiday you’re actually in can be just as sacred as the one you imagined.”

Even God doesn’t control how others show up — He invites, but never forces.
When we follow His example, we find peace.
Loving others freely means trusting that grace is more powerful than expectation.

If this episode spoke to your heart, share it with someone who might need a little more peace this holiday season.

And if you’re ready to build a mindset that brings more calm, connection, and joy to your everyday life — let’s talk.
You can schedule a free consultation with Trisha at trishastanton.com.

Because peace doesn’t come from everyone else changing —
it comes from you choosing to release, receive, and rest. 💛