Meg Jay, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist and an Associate Professor of Human Development at the University of Virginia. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR and BBC.

"Resilience" is of the defining attributes in facing adversity, but resilience isn't just "bouncing back" from a difficult challenge. In fact, resilience might be a lot different than you think—and you might be a lot more resilient than you give yourself credit for. In today's interview with Meg Jay, we talk about why you can't outrun your past, we normalize growing up with adversities, and give advice for how to recognize and reflect on them. We also talk about the importance of life's defining journeys and stages, why history doesn't have to repeat itself, how love heals us, and other healthy coping mechanisms.