It is possible to create a loving relationship which lasts through good times and bad. Individuals can develop an awareness of the troubling issues and behavior patterns which they bring to their relationships, often from their past history of stress and trauma. Unresolved painful experiences can lead to triggering, reenactment, and other defensive behaviors which interfere with intimacy and trust between partners. A commitment to personal integrity and selflessly taking responsibility for facing and resolving past trauma is essential for partners in loving relationships.