So when we look at our friends list and see we have 1000 friends and only 3 people liked or loved a social media update - we place value on our lives based off what we see as “not happening” or happening as a validation  that we are on the right path. We focus on the 997 people who didn’t validate us! 

We are also programmed to pull the plug on what we put our hands to in life when what we are doing seems like it's not rendering fruit or benefit right?

I don’t know anyone who wants to be known as the person who continued to pursue something that wasn’t working because it makes us look stupid, inferior and unintelligent. Like who does that? Who pursues something that doesn’t appear to be rendering a positive result?