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Episode #71 The Real Reason Hiring Help Isn’t Helping Your Stress Level
If you’ve ever hired help… and somehow ended up with more work, this episode is for you.
Because most women don’t struggle with delegation because they’re “bad at leadership.” They struggle because they’re unknowingly trying to hire a clone of themselves, holding a perfectionistic standard no one can meet, and carrying the mental load even after the task is “off” their plate.
In this conversation, Landy Peek sits down with Rachael Davila, owner of Extra Hands Virtual Assistance and author of Hey, Do I Need a VA?, to unpack the real reason support doesn’t feel supportive—and the shift that turns hiring help into actual freedom.
You’ll hear Rachael’s personal story of hitting a breaking point (the “success” that nearly took her out), what it forced her to face about control and perfectionism, and how learning to receive help changed everything—from business growth to home life.
Most importantly, Rachael breaks down a distinction every business owner needs to understand:
Doers vs. Collaborators
A doer executes tasks you clearly hand off.
A collaborator thinks with you—asks questions, sees the big picture, and helps pull you back on track when you veer off course.
If you keep hiring the wrong type for the season you’re in, delegation will always feel like friction.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “I’ll just do it myself” is often a control pattern—not a time-management issue
The hidden reason hiring help can feel like more mental energy at first
How to tell if you need a doer, a doer-leaning-collaborator, or a true collaborator
What to look for in interviews beyond the task list (communication style, leadership style, systems readiness, and more)
How to start delegating without risking your business—what to hand off first and why
The “good enough” mindset shift that makes support actually work
Why asking for help at home (and letting go of outcome control) is the same skill as delegating in business
How one delegation shift created enough space for Rachael to write and publish a book
A moment you’ll want to hear:
Rachael shares the line that changes everything:
“Yes, I can do it… but I don’t want to.”
And why telling the truth about that is often the beginning of sustainable growth.
Connect with Rachael
Rachael’s links (book, podcast, and ways to work with her):
https://linktr.ee/extrahandsva
If this episode hit you, send it to the friend who keeps saying, “I just need to get more organized,” when what she actually needs is the right support.
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By Landy PeekIf you’ve ever hired help… and somehow ended up with more work, this episode is for you.
Because most women don’t struggle with delegation because they’re “bad at leadership.” They struggle because they’re unknowingly trying to hire a clone of themselves, holding a perfectionistic standard no one can meet, and carrying the mental load even after the task is “off” their plate.
In this conversation, Landy Peek sits down with Rachael Davila, owner of Extra Hands Virtual Assistance and author of Hey, Do I Need a VA?, to unpack the real reason support doesn’t feel supportive—and the shift that turns hiring help into actual freedom.
You’ll hear Rachael’s personal story of hitting a breaking point (the “success” that nearly took her out), what it forced her to face about control and perfectionism, and how learning to receive help changed everything—from business growth to home life.
Most importantly, Rachael breaks down a distinction every business owner needs to understand:
Doers vs. Collaborators
A doer executes tasks you clearly hand off.
A collaborator thinks with you—asks questions, sees the big picture, and helps pull you back on track when you veer off course.
If you keep hiring the wrong type for the season you’re in, delegation will always feel like friction.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “I’ll just do it myself” is often a control pattern—not a time-management issue
The hidden reason hiring help can feel like more mental energy at first
How to tell if you need a doer, a doer-leaning-collaborator, or a true collaborator
What to look for in interviews beyond the task list (communication style, leadership style, systems readiness, and more)
How to start delegating without risking your business—what to hand off first and why
The “good enough” mindset shift that makes support actually work
Why asking for help at home (and letting go of outcome control) is the same skill as delegating in business
How one delegation shift created enough space for Rachael to write and publish a book
A moment you’ll want to hear:
Rachael shares the line that changes everything:
“Yes, I can do it… but I don’t want to.”
And why telling the truth about that is often the beginning of sustainable growth.
Connect with Rachael
Rachael’s links (book, podcast, and ways to work with her):
https://linktr.ee/extrahandsva
If this episode hit you, send it to the friend who keeps saying, “I just need to get more organized,” when what she actually needs is the right support.