A Better Love with Dr. Greg Matos

Episode 73: The Antidote to Narcissism in a long, healthy and fierce love


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Let’s talk about the skills necessary to navigate narcissism. 

In all things on this show, we talk about first attending to ourselves. So I’ll ask you, if you’re listening to this right now and have been told by one or more people, that you’re egocentric, self-absorbed, defensive, and maybe even contemptuous, I’ve got an amazing skill that will help you reach your fullest potential.

It’s called accepting influence and adoring your partner like yourself, loving them as you would want to be loved. This might sound scary, but especially if you’re a heterosexual man, your well-being and relationship satisfaction will actually increase when you are more accepting of your partner’s influence.

This may seem impossible if you or someone out there has a more rigid version of this in terms of a personality disorder. 

1 in 200 people, 75% of men can display narcissistic traits/relational patterns that ride to the level of a disorder, meaning it’s negatively impacting several spheres of their life including social relationships.

That’s. .5% of the population. Instead, I want to talk about two topics: self-esteem and emotional connection. 

So what about the other 99.5% of people in relationships who aren’t narcissists but lack the skills to truly emotionally connect, to truly adore our partner, to be open to their feedback, to their needs and desires, and see these desires as valid as our own.

Incorporating a simple ritual of emotional connection where everyone gets heard and validated routinely, is a great way to practice seeking understanding and validating. The SRC is one example of this.

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