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Episode 8. Allyship
Happy Pride!!!
In our first guest episode, Kate and Larkin are joined by Erica Vogel, author of the book Advice from Your Trans Aunty and the episodic Substack memoir Blue Sky Bird. Erica has spent the majority of her life solving a wide variety of trials and tribulations as both a closeted and out transgender woman. Drawing from her experiences, her education, and her interactions with thousands of transgender people, she provides a point of view focused on personal agency as a transgender individual. She is a frequent public speaker on trans affairs in and out of workplaces across the United States.
She also happened to be an early supporter of the show, so when Kate and Larkin put out a call for topics, she said, “I could ruin allyship…”
Now before you ask, “Why don’t you want us to be allies?!” that is not the point of this episode. Erica “ruins” allyship by discussing the bad forms of allyship some of us may be guilty of. So show up, shut up, and get ready to do the work as Erica walks Kate and Larkin through how you can take your allyship from performative to genuine.
Of course, what would Now It’s Ruined be without a little history? Erica walks us through the origin of the word “boycott,” and how laws put in place by Henry VIII were used to spread oppression and eventually caused WWII hero Alan Turing’s tragic end. Plus, you’ll never again be able to disentangle Bruce Springsteen from a very particular sexual act…
We highly recommend checking out the Wheel of Privilege and Power to see where your traits land. You can also take Buzzfeed’s quiz to determine your level of privilege. It includes some questions about COVID so is a bit outdated, but it’s very thorough. Kate scored a 63/67, Erica scored a 49/67, and Larkin scored a 52.
TW: Self harm
References
Allyship:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allyship
Neolgisms:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neologism
Boycott:
https://www.britannica.com/money/Charles-Cunningham-Boycott
1533 Buggery Act:
https://shirehalldorset.org/a-timeline-of-lgbtq-law-and-justice/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buggery_Act_1533
Alan Turing
https://www.britannica.com/biography/Alan-Turing/Computer-designer
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/science/8-things-didnt-know-alan-turing
The handkerchief code
https://historyproject.org/news/2019-04/hanky-panky-abridged-history-hanky-code-0
https://www.thesaintfoundation.org/community/hanky-code-bob-damrons-address-book
Code words & Flowers
https://gcn.ie/exploring-queer-coded-language/
If you know something we can ruin, send the topic and a brief hint at how it's ruined to [email protected]. Let us know if you'd like us to credit you if we choose your topic!
Follow us on Patreon for updates, video episodes, and lots of fun bonus content (even for unpaid members). You can also follow us on YouTube and Instagram.
You can also follow Kate and Larkin! Kate is on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. Larkin is on TikTok and Instagram.
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By Kate Bridal and Larkin HarringtonHappy Pride!!!
In our first guest episode, Kate and Larkin are joined by Erica Vogel, author of the book Advice from Your Trans Aunty and the episodic Substack memoir Blue Sky Bird. Erica has spent the majority of her life solving a wide variety of trials and tribulations as both a closeted and out transgender woman. Drawing from her experiences, her education, and her interactions with thousands of transgender people, she provides a point of view focused on personal agency as a transgender individual. She is a frequent public speaker on trans affairs in and out of workplaces across the United States.
She also happened to be an early supporter of the show, so when Kate and Larkin put out a call for topics, she said, “I could ruin allyship…”
Now before you ask, “Why don’t you want us to be allies?!” that is not the point of this episode. Erica “ruins” allyship by discussing the bad forms of allyship some of us may be guilty of. So show up, shut up, and get ready to do the work as Erica walks Kate and Larkin through how you can take your allyship from performative to genuine.
Of course, what would Now It’s Ruined be without a little history? Erica walks us through the origin of the word “boycott,” and how laws put in place by Henry VIII were used to spread oppression and eventually caused WWII hero Alan Turing’s tragic end. Plus, you’ll never again be able to disentangle Bruce Springsteen from a very particular sexual act…
We highly recommend checking out the Wheel of Privilege and Power to see where your traits land. You can also take Buzzfeed’s quiz to determine your level of privilege. It includes some questions about COVID so is a bit outdated, but it’s very thorough. Kate scored a 63/67, Erica scored a 49/67, and Larkin scored a 52.
TW: Self harm
References
Allyship:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allyship
Neolgisms:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neologism
Boycott:
https://www.britannica.com/money/Charles-Cunningham-Boycott
1533 Buggery Act:
https://shirehalldorset.org/a-timeline-of-lgbtq-law-and-justice/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buggery_Act_1533
Alan Turing
https://www.britannica.com/biography/Alan-Turing/Computer-designer
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/science/8-things-didnt-know-alan-turing
The handkerchief code
https://historyproject.org/news/2019-04/hanky-panky-abridged-history-hanky-code-0
https://www.thesaintfoundation.org/community/hanky-code-bob-damrons-address-book
Code words & Flowers
https://gcn.ie/exploring-queer-coded-language/
If you know something we can ruin, send the topic and a brief hint at how it's ruined to [email protected]. Let us know if you'd like us to credit you if we choose your topic!
Follow us on Patreon for updates, video episodes, and lots of fun bonus content (even for unpaid members). You can also follow us on YouTube and Instagram.
You can also follow Kate and Larkin! Kate is on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. Larkin is on TikTok and Instagram.