So much about how we are conditioned to view romance is rooted in a lack of choice–time and again we are shown examples of love in media that are beyond choice, bigger than the will of anyone involved. In real life, this can be a toxic motivator for people to get (or stay) involved in unhealthy situations, it can be a notion used by abusers to justify the unstable nature of these back-and-forth relationships, and it can cause us to view red flags through rose-colored glasses. What would happen if we were to flip the script and romanticize choice?