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Episode 9: Vulnerability - Cracks and Canyons - Barriers That Get in the Way
In this episode, our hosts, Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh, explore blocks and barriers to vulnerability, share personal stories, and provide practical tips for embracing vulnerability in your own life.
Episode Show Notes
"There is something within you beyond all doubt and fear, something which has never been limited by your acts or destroyed by your feeling. This is the only something that can make you whole" (Ernest Holmes, This Thing Called You, pg. 4).
I. The importance of authenticity and the birthplace of vulnerability within us
"Vulnerability is a state of emotional exposure that comes with a certain degree of uncertainty. It involves a person's willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved." (Brene Brown)
II. Barriers to Vulnerability
- Fear - fear of opinions, rejection, not being good enough
- Uncertainty - Our love for certainty and hamper our vulnerability
- Comparison - Comparing ourselves to others may cause us to hold back or "play small"
- Other examples of barriers to vulnerability:
- Perfectionism - “don’t let them see you sweat”
- Lack of trust: Trust is essential for vulnerability. Past betrayals
- Cultural/Society “norms”
- Low self-esteem/Unworthiness
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, we're afraid!" they responded.
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, We will fall!" they responded.
"Come to the edge," he said.
And so they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.”
― Guillaume Apollinaire
Be gentle with yourself, especially where it is not physically safe or your vulnerable self hasn’t been earned!
III. Courage and Bravery - turning inward and speaking our truth out loud
"Bravery doesn't ask us to abandon who we are. It means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud. Since the Knowing is specific, personal, and ever-changing, so is bravery. Whether you are brave or not cannot be judged by people on the outside. Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd think you're a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself." - Glennon Doyle
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Forgiving the Shadow - Beta Class with Michelle - Beginning Saturday, April 15
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thelivingoutloudshow.substack.com
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By The Living Out Loud ShowIn this episode, our hosts, Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh, explore blocks and barriers to vulnerability, share personal stories, and provide practical tips for embracing vulnerability in your own life.
Episode Show Notes
"There is something within you beyond all doubt and fear, something which has never been limited by your acts or destroyed by your feeling. This is the only something that can make you whole" (Ernest Holmes, This Thing Called You, pg. 4).
I. The importance of authenticity and the birthplace of vulnerability within us
"Vulnerability is a state of emotional exposure that comes with a certain degree of uncertainty. It involves a person's willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved." (Brene Brown)
II. Barriers to Vulnerability
- Fear - fear of opinions, rejection, not being good enough
- Uncertainty - Our love for certainty and hamper our vulnerability
- Comparison - Comparing ourselves to others may cause us to hold back or "play small"
- Other examples of barriers to vulnerability:
- Perfectionism - “don’t let them see you sweat”
- Lack of trust: Trust is essential for vulnerability. Past betrayals
- Cultural/Society “norms”
- Low self-esteem/Unworthiness
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, we're afraid!" they responded.
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, We will fall!" they responded.
"Come to the edge," he said.
And so they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.”
― Guillaume Apollinaire
Be gentle with yourself, especially where it is not physically safe or your vulnerable self hasn’t been earned!
III. Courage and Bravery - turning inward and speaking our truth out loud
"Bravery doesn't ask us to abandon who we are. It means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud. Since the Knowing is specific, personal, and ever-changing, so is bravery. Whether you are brave or not cannot be judged by people on the outside. Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd think you're a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself." - Glennon Doyle
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Forgiving the Shadow - Beta Class with Michelle - Beginning Saturday, April 15
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thelivingoutloudshow.substack.com