Your child has shut down and will not talk to you.  You try every angle to connect with him(her), but nothing.   You just want to know what is going on, but all efforts lead to a dead end.  Lisa Leanos Goodpastor was one of those children.  Shut down and cut off from her parent.   Now as an adult, she has the introspection to identify and educate the rest of us on what is imperative for target parents to know and how to help their kids.  Listen to understand what it is like for your child and how you can better connect to them.