In the middle of a meltdown, when your ears are about to burst, and your patience is worn thin, it's hard to know what to do. 

Sure, people can tell you to "be firm" but that just ends in a massive power struggle. 

Others can tell you to "validate their feelings" but that doesn't even get heard sometimes. So what can be done in those crazy, exhausting moments when all emotions are running high?

Lauren Tamm from https://themilitarywifeandmom.com shares with us one simple and science-backed tip that can definitely help in those stressful moments.

In this episode, you'll learn:

* why it doesn't work to talk calmly in heated moments

* how to use tantrums/meltdowns/whining for good

* why ignoring the whining won't work in the long term