Show notes:

00:07 90% of people with a penis who are between 35 and 55 have struggled to get an erection firm enough for intercourse

03:17 What is Erectile Self Efficacy?

03:40 Autonomous sexual erections aren’t realistic

04:42 The alternative to panicking and apologizing

04:52 The "Good Enough Sex" Model

05:26 It's almost always the man's choice to stop having sex

07:32 Where did we go wrong in having guys believe that sex is always supposed to be this one way?

07:53 Men have been lied to about their sexuality

08:21 Responsive male sexual desire

08:45 Men lie to each other about sex

08:51 Using medications as part of erectile self efficacy

09:14 Self-consciousness is the most anti-erotic thing you do

09:37 How to reduce performance anxiety

10:39 Grandfather of sex, Bill Masters

10:50 How do you know a man is cured of erectile dysfunction?

11:14 What to say when penetration isn't going to be part of the sexual experience

11:33 Good Enough Sex Model and Michael Metz

12:37 Working together as an erotic ally

13:44 Desire is not based on performance - desire is based on sharing pleasure

14:27 Orgasm is not the best measure of satisfaction

14:52 Waxing and Waning of erections exercise

16:44 Sex is more than penetration

16:48 What is sex?

17:13 Prostate cancer

18:46 How to know when you are ready for penetration?

19:34 Why do men fail with pro erection medications?

20:17 Pro-penis approach

20:48 Medical evaluation is very important

21:49 Don't assume that because you have a medical problem, like cancer, diabetes, or heart condition, that you cannot be sexual

22:15 Missionary style is not the best position in your 60's. 70's, and 80's

25:26 This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

25:32 Show ideas or questions? Email [email protected] and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast

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