Most of us would agree that orgasms are one of the highlights, if not the chief motivator when intimacy takes place. Are you having them or are you letting your mate believe you are having them? If you are not having them, what is the reason you aren't sharing this with your mate? If you have talked to your mate, did it help/hurt? If you are having them, do you find it helps your relationship? Come see what was discussed and consider your perspective.