ERP 399: What’s Going On When We Rely On Others For Our Happiness — An Interview With Deb Blum

Entrusting our happiness to others implies depending on external validation or circumstances to feel content, fulfilled, or complete. Instead of finding intrinsic sources of joy and fulfillment within ourselves, we place the responsibility for our happiness on external influences. This reliance on external factors, especially in relationships, may result in emotional vulnerability and fragile self-esteem. In this episode, we explore the complexities of self-discovery and healing within relationships, delving into the significance of inner child work and its impact on our emotional well-being. We discuss the challenges of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging our shadows, and breaking free from the patterns that hinder personal growth. The conversation highlights the role of self-love and acceptance in fostering healthier connections with ourselves and others, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and genuine expression in our journey toward fulfillment. Deb Blum is a visionary leader and the founder of The Whole Soul Way, a transformational program dedicated to empowering women on their journey toward self-discovery and authentic expression. Through her step-by-step process, Deb helps self-led, do-it-all women break free from fear, conditioning, and external expectations, enabling them to express themselves fully, therefore creating more success, emotionally fulfilling relationships, happiness, and inner peace without losing their edge or disrupting the lives they've worked so hard to create. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:59 Introducing Deb Blum and her transformative program dedicated to empowering women through self-discovery. 11:17 Unveiling unconscious behaviors: Exploring tendencies to criticize, blame, or project onto others. 19:02 Deb Blum recounts how the pressure of motherhood and a desire for control brought projecting tendencies to light, leading to insights about her expectations and relationship dynamics. 28:41 Navigating identity attachments: Embracing the complexity of the human condition. 33:20 Unveiling the energy dynamics of repression and embracing the multifaceted human experience. 46:03 Nurturing wholeness through reparenting: The transformative journey. 51:48 The significance of overcoming defensiveness and creating space for genuine dialogue. 57:07 Support and resources. Mentioned The Whole Soul Way (*program sales page) Out of the Shadows: A Shadow Work Starter Kit (*free resources) Do-It-All Inner Power Animal Quiz (*quiz) ERP 174: How to Experience More Love in Your Relationship With Byron Katie Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Deb Blum Websites: thewholesoulway.com Facebook: facebook.com/DebBlumOfficial YouTube: youtube.com/debblumnow Instagram: instagram.com/debblum TikTok: tiktok.com/@deb.blum LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debblum Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.