Sue, a court stenographer from Bayshore, New York, shares her harrowing experiences with financial and emotional abuse in her two marriages.  She details her first husband's lies and instability, leading to a short-lived marriage and his eventual death.  Her second husband, a successful financier with a beautiful mansion in Connecticut, was abusive, controlling her finances and eventually leading them both to an economic disaster.  Sue's life changed after volunteering for ECLIVES, where she now serves as a vice president and rape crisis counselor.  Sue emphasizes the importance of saving money, seeking support and focusing on self-care for those still in abusive relationships. 

 

KEY HIGHLIGHTS: 

1. Sue shares her background, born in Brooklyn and living in suburban areas of New York City.
2. She discusses her financial upbringing, describing her household as middle to upper middle class, with her father owning an insurance agency. 
3. Sue describes her career as a court stenographer, a career she has held for over 35 years. 
4. She recounts meeting her first husband and how it ended up a short-lived marriage after abuse and instability. 
5. Sue reflects on her poor judgement in men and her low self esteem, which led her to stay in abusive relationships. 
6. She meets her second husband, and describes his initial charm and financial success. 
7. Sue details the abusive nature of her second marriage, including verbal and emotional abuse, and his complete control over her finances and access to money. 
8. She shares a pivitol moment where her husband attacked her during an argument, leading to his arrest and their eventual divorce. 
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