Every98: Anonymous but Brave

It’s episode 25 and this is the last episode before we break. We have a contributor story that skirts around kidnapping, trafficking and repressed memories and the trauma involved.

Discord is staying up through the break and we’re still accepting stories. Email us at [email protected] to let us know what you want to see more of, less of, etc when we come back.

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It’s episode 24 and we get depressed and frustrated as we talk about how the quarantine effects people who live with their abusers, the fork theory and why it matters now more than ever, the Biden-Tara Reade (not Tara Reid) situation, and how West Virginia made the rest of us look like chumps and won the country.

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Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/help/

https://www.rainn.org/ chat available here for assistance. also 1-800-656-hope for calls.

safe passages for those in idaho: https://www.safepassageid.org/

Suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255

betterhelp.com or talkspace.com for online therapy.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/mar/28/joe-biden-sexual-assault-allegations-why-has-media-ignored-claims?fbclid=IwAR1_TPTCgP0Fk85VTR29z6B5jUJxhpgzVfBsqLmeGG9200vZf6paqajV4Ek

https://www.herald-dispatch.com/news/sexual-assault-bill-requiring-swifter-testing-tracking-system-for-victims/article_1c497e1b-98ba-5c46-95fe-dde8e54feeb1.html?fbclid=IwAR1Sj4Q_pkWPKN8J1LfWIiEytDi2veH2xgBkb3B0PIlOTqJAxLZ3cqffZzo

No, we’re not ending the podcast, but we are breaking to collect stories, and balance out our lives in the short term mayhem.

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It's episode 23 and we have 2 contributor stories again. Thanks to both of our contributors and to every one before them.

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This is episode 22 and thanks to a brand new survey from this decade, we're talking episode 2 all about consent. It's a little looser and a little more rambling because you can only say the same things in so many ways.

Read more here: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/a-third-of-male-university-students-say-they-would-rape-a-woman-if-there-no-were-no-consequences-9978052.html

This is hidden by a paywall, but the abstract gives more context for the study: https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/vio.2014.0022?journalCode=vio&

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It’s episode 21 and we’re not having fun. CW as usual. This was originally posted on reddit and the OP offered to contribute to the podcast.

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We promised to share links to the gofundme and justgiving but it seems those have expired. I’m reaching out for more, and will update this if it comes.

I want to add this quote pulled from a comment made by the OP. “What i am trying to do which may take YEARS is •register as homeless with the council •report to police once im safe •find a cheap flat •get a job far away •live my life •not get hurt

What I have done •told RASAC •told CAMHS •tried to apply for CICA (wont let me till im 16) •researched EVERYTHING i can (this is the only comments I will appreciate is advice about SCOTTISH laws because I really need help) •fought the school for 2 years to let me sit some of my exams, i have done 2 exams but neither maths nor english •dropped out of school, i stopped going around the age of 14 and now i am officially no longer a student •told my parents, although they are supportive of this they are still toxic in other senses which I have left a reply about •told my older sister who has slutshamed me nonstop and blamed me for being harrassed online •signed up for therapy (rasac waiting list) •gone to CAMHS ‘therapy’ for 4 years •got prescribed anti depressants •fought with camhs to try and get a diagnosis so I can claim CICA over the past 2 years (nhs hates giving diagnosis to kids) (also my parents refuse to believe i have mental problems) •had to sit in a room at school with just me and no teacher and my rapist S to finish a preliminary essay. This terrified me so much I didnt finish the essay bevause I was crying. He never said a word to me but he sat in the seat I always sit in for registration. •walked by several people smoking which triggers my ptsd because they all smelt like fags •taken a shit ton of drugs •had to stop drinking because it gives me ptsd and makes me throw up

Why it has affected me so much •I cant brush my teeth. I cant brush my teeth. Every time I put something in my mouth I cry and throw up. •I have nightmares several nights each week •I have had threats about rape from every boy I know •the boy whos house it was at messaged me on instagram the other week asking If i would have sex with him •I cant drink because of ptsd •I nearly pass out from anxiety when alone in public near men”

It’s episode 20 and the holidays so we wanted to get a little lighter? and talk about tips I’ve learned for helping raise self esteem.

                1: I love you until it not only doesn’t feel icky or gross or wrong but feels right and natural (not a single day process.

                2: To yourself (out loud), or to the mirror, or to another person you trust say out loud the negative thoughts you have about yourself. Don’t do this until you can say I love you to yourself and mean it. You’ll likely feel shame, because you’d never say those things to another person you loved.

                3: After you’ve said it out loud, say “I used to believe those things, now, I’m starting to learn I am enough.” Then break it down negative thought by negative thought, ex: “I used to believe I’m stupid, I’m now starting to learn I’m smart” Bonus points if you can come up with an example of why you know you’re smart, or whatever. “I learned such and such” or “I got an A in this class” or “I consistently make decisions that help improve my life”

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We have two contributors today because they were both a little shorter, but both are hard to hear because they were kids when it happened. Content warning is in place for every episode, so proceed with caution as always.

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It’s Episode 18 and we’re talking about recent news. Very recent. The last 3 days of my google alerts recent. Too many cops taking advantage of their position, but luckily most seem to be dealing with consequences for doing so. Still, there’s a little slut-shaming, a confused man that thinks it’s not the rape of a child if money is exchanged, high fives, and more. We both wanted a drink by the end of this.

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Sources:

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-london-50520818?fbclid=IwAR3S72taQIFQrVFjcL7HzCPHluVyU7gdWzlSEUpp3CtaclrtvRF3dhMuNG0

https://www.dallasnews.com/opinion/editorials/2019/11/24/rape-murder-and-a-positive-dna-test-that-the-cops-sat-on-for-weeks/?fbclid=IwAR0gEbRiEliWfnE6RP7mY2ZKnPmK6zqMixYKfLJfDUw-HinvO4VhDCwXnCk

https://www.spokesman.com/stories/2019/nov/22/spokane-police-officer-booked-into-jail-on-rape-ch/?fbclid=IwAR0KsIi-qcmsEWZwZ8sF0R0vDix8tlhRbSoDlIAsLrWHT_5DqU_PxJ_1U7o

https://www.channel3000.com/news/national-news/texas-police-officer-charged-with-sexual-assault-of-a-child/1144887315?fbclid=IwAR2pLZVQdxex1BDWUzUbwJ3GgQPJzdAT1yaKQUKmz0pR4F2-1FAWx4_N6Ig

https://www.mprnews.org/story/2019/11/22/deputy-charged-with-sexual-assault?fbclid=IwAR25N_ZoEy_FUD5gjKCaaWWPETe93uPu8n5wWqGIaCKjBCpNCok9KDe8T4k

https://www.chron.com/news/houston-texas/houston/article/Arcola-police-officer-accused-of-sexual-assault-14852229.php?fbclid=IwAR0ubIulw2Zbw8hyDjZKHruYfdH5HmiMVpz_5qLiPA0sI1jvA1cymyLYELI

https://www.nbclosangeles.com/news/local/Former-SoCal-Police-Officer-Will-Not-Face-Rape-Charge-565318652.html?fbclid=IwAR1LjvciCCGg2lNnG6Tu8LzMlUNp-RV4sOtDzfi_jla0wxzTXp4VMZSkVpk

It’s episode 17 and we have a special guest, Zachary, explain his own case of sexual assault committed by an at the time girlfriend now ex that has left him expelled and in year 3 of hearings. He talks about some of the unique issues that come up due to his gender, and how he gets away when he’s still right in the middle of it all.

Resource discussed in the episode:

https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=VcWO5hzZfpA&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DS1xxcKCGljY%26feature%3Dshare&fbclid=IwAR1xfHnD8SmRSgMGm8IZ16yrTXZhYdoOb_9OEJF4kNLxh2jiw6cKj-NtEZo