05.21.2018 - By Robert Vore & Dr. Holly Oxhandler
This week, our guest host is trauma therapist Aundi Kolber! She talks about how grief is the bedrock of mental health, why smaller traumas & losses are still so important, what it means to really feel our feelings, and how learning how to respond honestly to smaller day-to-day moments sets the stage for encountering larger events.
Things Aundi mentions in this episode/other resources:- Hear more from Aundi on episode 32 - Trauma, Attachment, & Creating Safety (https://cxmhpodcast.com/show-notes/2018/2/26/32-trauma-feat-aundi-kolber).- Hear more about grief on episode 17 - Grief & Loss (feat. Dr. Elizabeth Horn & John Pavlovitz) (https://cxmhpodcast.com/show-notes/2017/6/4/17-grief-loss-feat-john-pavlovitz-dr-elizabeth-horn).- Hear more about emotions & feelings on episode 21 - Emotions Aren't Evil (feat. Marc Alan Schelske) (https://cxmhpodcast.com/show-notes/2017/10/8/21-emotions-arent-bad-feat-marc-alan-schelske).- Aundi mentions being an Enneagram 4 and references recent episodes featuring Dr. Holly Oxhandler & Dr. Jon Singletary (https://cxmhpodcast.com/show-notes?tag=Enneagram)- The work of Dr. Brené Brown (https://brenebrown.com/)- The work of Dr. Dan Siegal (http://www.drdansiegel.com/)- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&qid=1526663212&sr=8-1&keywords=the+body+keeps+the+score&linkCode=ll1&tag=robertvorecom-20&linkId=c571166aeafa287a860846a1356e37b4) by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk- Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I've Loved (https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Happens-Reason-Other-Loved/dp/0399592067/ref=as_li_ss_tl?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1526663323&sr=1-1&keywords=kate+bowler+everything+happens+for+a+reason&linkCode=ll1&tag=robertvorecom-20&linkId=66638628af1c28e303ea3443125ea1c5) by Kate Bowler- the poet Nayyirah Waheed (here's her website (https://www.nayyirahwaheed.com/), her Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nayyirah.waheed/), her Twitter (https://twitter.com/nayyirahwaheed), and her books on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Nayyirah-Waheed/e/B00J1OVZI2/ref=as_li_ss_tl?qid=1526666280&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll2&tag=robertvorecom-20&linkId=f3decc8eb0e40dab5f68a1038b2a4d96)).
Connect with Aundi on her website (http://www.bravelyimperfect.com/), Twitter (https://twitter.com/aundikolber), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/aundikolberwrites/), or Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/aundikolber/).
Quotes:- "Grief is a normal part of what it means to be human.” (tweet (https://ctt.ac/2FLAy))- “A lot of people grew up with the experience that it wasn’t ok to feel feelings.” (tweet (https://ctt.ac/ejdHz))- “Grief…kind of represents what our body needs to do to move through difficult emotions.” (tweet (https://ctt.ac/wUf0f))- “We can have smaller losses and smaller transitions. We have to learn how to feel those too.” (tweet (https://ctt.ac/cVaL4))- “There’s this idea in the Bible that as you steward a smaller thing, you have permission to steward a bigger thing. I think it’s actually very similar with our emotions.” (tweet (https://ctt.ac/jas1L))- “If we’ve never learned how to feel smaller emotions,