Today I learned that I have to exceed my standard. I use to hold the belief that maybe I shouldn’t have standards. I don’t have as much relationship experience as I’d like and that’s majorly because I didn’t act on the options that were available to me. Realizing that I began to just take what I could get. Any girl that looked at me twice I would go after them. That led me to date girls that I wasn’t romantically interested in. They were cool, nice, and smart chicks but they weren’t chicks that really motivated me to bring my A-game. They weren’t chicks I could see myself with in the long haul. But for awhile I stuck in their because I was partly frustrated that I couldn’t get the girls that I wanted. It was only after achieving my goal of paying off my lofty tuition bill did I gain the confidence to set my eyes on bettering my love life. I really feel like if I put the same amount of effort and critical thinking to achieving a meaningful romantic relationship with a girl I could see myself with i have a good chance at hitting my target. I’ve come to realize from being more involved in the dating market that people want want more for less. People want certain qualities in a mate that they don’t possess or don’t posses enough of to make the difference. But all that means is that I have to define what qualities that I want in my next girlfriend and then work to develop those qualities in myself to a higher than average degree. This will make me more of a magnet to the type of girl I want. It will also give me the peace of mind that I’m putting in the work to get what I want in return. So today I learned that I have to exceed my standard. The qualities that I want in my next girlfriend first have to be developed in myself to a high degree.