" The most common form of despair is not being who you are." Kiekagaard How do we become our selves? Well it appears there are 3 modes of existence that as use to reconcile our potential with our necessity: The Aesthetic, Ethical and Religious modes of life are the responses Kierkegaard uses to frame how we respond to the responsibility of living. Today we explore the aesthetic ( a life filled with the pursuit of what is interesting ) , and the ethical ( a life filled with observing our duties to society ) Spoiler alert, both modes fail to result in us becoming fully ourselves. So that's where the third way, the religious way comes in.