Brian talks about a quote he saw while driving around town.

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Expect nothing, appreciate everything.

Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I saw this quote, when I was driving down the street. There's a local, I believe it's an insurance company. Now I got to look it up, I apologize to them for not remembering who they are, where they have the Wendy's marquee signs.

They switch the letters around to put up interesting sayings. And this isn't the first one that I've written down, I may have even done an episode on this on these guys before because they have interesting quotes.

This is another one that is very interesting to me because I agree with the general spirit of it. But I disagree with the exact nature of it. Okay, and I'll get into it in a second.

So the first half of this is expect nothing.

And that is the part that I have a little bit of issue with.

Here's what I mean, in English. I'm quite certain that I've seen this in other languages where there are different words, for very different things. But in English, we tend to use a lot of the same words for all the same thing, but for very different things.

Expectation is one of those words that we use to explain a whole lot of different things. And I'm going to talk about two of them right now.

First, there's very much a difference in the human psyche. When you're talking about any emotional expectation, versus an almost factual expectation. I heard this the other day, this analogy and let me try and use it here and see if it fits, I'm thinking of it as we're sitting here.

If you turn on a light, and you've been in the room a million times, you know, the electricity is on because other lights in the house are on. But you go in this particular room, you turn the switch on, you expect the light to turn on, it's not an emotional expectation, you expect it.

If everything's working properly, the light will turn off. And if the bulb has burned out, whether you know it or if you don't know it, or if something if a mouse chew through the wiring or something it won't turn on.

The expectation doesn't do anything different because you have a very factual it's a very straightforward expectation. It's just direct.

When you get emotional about your expectations, I mean, even the emotional, the term emotion, and emotional have been twisted quite a lot through the years.

When I'm saying emotional, I'm talking negative, emotional. So it means you put your self-worth and you're very being into the idea of what happens in life.

That type of emotional expectation where if something doesn't happen the way you want, you're crushed.

As opposed to just saying, this is the way it's going to be this way I expect it to happen. And I'm moving forward under that expectation.

The emotional expectation and the way I'm describing that type of emotional expectation, I think is one of the most damaging things to people's lives. Because they expect something not based on reality, but based on this false emotional reality that we create on the inside.

When you do that, you can see that happen over and over and over again with people's lives who get their hopes up about something get all wound up about something and they build up this almost this intensity of I'm not sure if I can think of the word but its entitlement in a sense.