What is sex about?  What is it for?  Many things, of course—pleasure and connection just being two of them.  So what happens when there is an expectation or a mismatch in preferences?  Can we talk about it with openness and curiosity? Or do we get pouty, irritable or retaliatory?  It is inevitable that there will be times when our partners want sex when we are not in the mood or vice versa.  When that happens, it is important to make the distinction that this rejection is not a rejection of the person.  It’s just not what feels right in this particular moment.  But in order to do that, there is a lot of checking in with self and sometimes fun, sometimes awkward conversations with your partner that need to happen.  Regardless of what it is you want--more, less, or different--this is the way to get it.  That’s what Jules, Vickey and Rebecca are talking about this week on the podcast.  

If you’re interested in diving deeper, listen to Rebecca’s interview with Emily Nagoski over on the Connectfulness Practice podcast at: https://connectfulness-practice.captivate.fm/episode/how-stress-affects-sex-with-emily-nagoski

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