Ep. 120 - EYM Part 3: Bringing It All Together

Heads up! The Fall Newlywed Mastermind opens for registration on Sunday JUST for the people on the waitlist so make sure you’re signed up.

We are now up to part THREE where we are bringing together our introspection work with our big dreams.

Here are two concepts before we go into application mode.

It’s important not to judge our result of how we’re showing up as a wife based on how our husband feels. That doesn’t mean we don’t get to be empathetic, intuitive, or compassionate. But when my goal is to make him happy, I’m trying to take control of something that is not mine to own. His feelings are his.

It’s also helpful to remember that any work you’re doing, whether that’s these workbooks or reading marriage books or joining the Mastermind, is not for him. So it isn’t “unfair” that you’re working on your marriage and he’s not. You’re doing it for you.

The best way to make change is to take one of your goals, find something specific you can do, and then cut it down to the smallest possible version. Want to be warmer to your husband? Look him in the eye and smile at him for two seconds when he arrives home from work. Choosing a habit that is easy to do means it will snowball. And then give yourself credit when you’ve completed it!

What you’ll learn in this episode

What it means to take too much responsibility

Why making our husband happy can’t ultimately be our goal

How to be ok with a husband who you think should feel “better” or act differently

How to create habits

Sources

The Fall Mastermind Wait List

Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg

The Final Elul Your Marriage Workbook