The Focus 53 Podcast: Business Systems, People, & Processes

F53-011: My Rock Bottom - How It Made Me Better

03.31.2016 - By Ryan Ayres: Business Coach and StrategistPlay

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I just spent 10 days at Tropical Think Tank in Cebu, Philippines. It was an awesome event hosted by Chris Ducker. If you love:

Great mastermindsGreat SpeakersMeeting a lot of new friendsGetting great information on how to run your business betterTTT is the place for you.

At TTT Hal Elrod, The Miracle Morning author, talked about his Rock Bottoms and how they changed/affected his life. This really got me thinking about some of my rock bottoms. But I don’t consider them that…I’ve always looked at them as events in my life. As Hal spoke, the more I thought about it, I could clearly draw a coloration to who I am now to these events. Everyone has rock bottoms and they shape our life. The good news is that we get to shape what they mean in our life. I was really lucky. Even though I was young, myself and my friends took this rock bottom and turned it into a positive.

In this show, you'll hear my story and how my rock bottom allowed me to learn:

- Many of my friends are in public service (Police, fire, teachers, etc.). I can only suspect that the events of this night helped shaped their career choices.- I am very much a relationship person and down deep inside an emotional dude. I really miss friends I haven’t seen for some time and when I leave an event I get a little sad.- I learned that God didn’t pick me, that I’m here for a purpose, and the older/wiser I get the more I want to drive to that purpose…maybe that’s why you're listening to this podcast. I believe that is what Focus 53 is all about for me.- I’ve learned that Dan’s parents really do love his friends, even after all these years, they are proud of us and I suspect feel some of Dan’s love/life through seeing us be successful. The modern miracle of Facebook helps with that.- Life if fragile… you just never know. I’m gaining more clarity on that concept and following my calling, heart and dreams.- The bond I have with my friends from this time in my life will never be broken, they know I’d do anything for them and I know they’d do anything for me. It’s a special groupGo with your gut. My gut told me to run that night vs. fighting. I’m not sure why and believe me, - I’ve analyzed it more times than I care to admit.

How does all this tie back to business? For me, it’s really easy. Knowing life is short, that relationships mean the world to me, that I want my friends to be proud of me, that I want to be able to help them in business, life, etc….it boils down to choosing HOW we spend our time and with WHO. The more I feel I can control that, the better I feel.

This happened about 20 years ago and it's still very much an emotional topic. This story certainly isn’t meant to attract sympathy, it's meant to illustrate the POSITIVE power of your rock bottom(s). yeah, I said POSITIVE POWER. We get to determine, in life, in business, with our career choices, how we react to events in our life. We can’t control the events, but we can control our mind and choices. Learn from the not so awesome events in your life, grow from them and use them as fuel to propel you to the next level. Us the power of the event to harness positive change in your life.

Looking back…that’s what I did even though I didn’t fully recognize it until TTT.

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