I might have been late to this party, but I have an opinion.
F Them Kids!
When did boyfriend and girlfriend get married people entitlements?
When did kids outside of wedlock get the same entitlements outside of child support?
Men you must vet better.
Some men who have a child by a woman who has multiple children by multiple men are the ones who get the smoke when they're present and good fathers. These men take the heat for the others who aren't there.
So men watch who you lay down with. Sometimes you are expected to keep paying and doing, even when you are gone.
Sometimes to have peace you gotta be mean, be an A-hole, and at times say...F Them Kids!