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“The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.” - Proverbs 14:8
When it comes to saving, spending, and talking about money, our God-given temperament plays a bigger role than we think. Today, Kathleen Edelman shares how understanding your wiring can lead to better financial decisions and healthier money conversations.
Kathleen Edelman is the author of “I Said This, You Heard That: How Your Wiring Colors Your Communication.” She is certified in Biblical Studies and Christian Counseling Psychology and has spent over 30 years coaching clients in the art of effective communication.
Temperament was studied by Hippocrates 2,000 years ago. It’s innate, unchangeable, and part of your design by God, like your eye color or fingerprint. In contrast, “personality” evolves based on culture, upbringing, education, and environment.
This foundational understanding is essential not just in relationships but also in how we approach money.
Temperament influences how we budget, spend, save, and even how we talk about money. Here’s how each temperament—Yellow, Red, Blue, and Green—sees financial decisions through a unique lens:
YELLOW (Sanguine): The Fun-Loving Giver- Wiring: Optimistic, relational, in-the-moment.
- Financial Outlook: Sees money as a way to connect and create experiences. Often spontaneous and generous, but may avoid serious conversations about finances out of fear of conflict or damaging relationships.
- Growth Tip: Build guardrails around spending while leaving room for joy. Schedule regular money conversations to reduce anxiety.
- Wiring: Goal-driven, results-oriented, confident.
- Financial Outlook: Excels at goal setting, budgeting for success, and achieving results. May be impulsive or steamroll others in decision-making.
- Growth Tip: Invite feedback and take the time to consider other perspectives. Collaboration builds trust.
- Wiring: Detail-oriented, safety-driven, analytical.
- Financial Outlook: Needs detailed plans, emergency savings, and financial security. Prefers structure and predictability.
- Growth Tip: Communicate your need for time to process financial decisions. Allow room for flexibility while maintaining your desire for order.
- Wiring: Calm, steady, conflict-avoidant.
- Financial Outlook: Values simplicity, consistency, and low-stress systems. May avoid decisions that involve conflict or complexity.
- Growth Tip: Don’t be afraid to speak up about your financial opinions. Take the time you need, but be intentional about engaging.
Most miscommunication is not intentional. For instance, it could be that you’re speaking ‘blue,’ and they’re hearing ‘yellow.’” That misalignment can be costly, both relationally and financially.
To bridge the gap, learn to recognize both your own temperament and the temperament of the person you're speaking with. Then, speak their language.
Example: A Yellow Talking to a Blue- A Yellow might say: “Hey _______, I know details matter to you. Can we sit down together and make a plan that gives us both a vision with a little room for fun?”
- This honors the Blue’s need for order and gives space for the Yellow’s desire for connection.
- Rather than saying, “W
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By WTLR Radio“The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.” - Proverbs 14:8
When it comes to saving, spending, and talking about money, our God-given temperament plays a bigger role than we think. Today, Kathleen Edelman shares how understanding your wiring can lead to better financial decisions and healthier money conversations.
Kathleen Edelman is the author of “I Said This, You Heard That: How Your Wiring Colors Your Communication.” She is certified in Biblical Studies and Christian Counseling Psychology and has spent over 30 years coaching clients in the art of effective communication.
Temperament was studied by Hippocrates 2,000 years ago. It’s innate, unchangeable, and part of your design by God, like your eye color or fingerprint. In contrast, “personality” evolves based on culture, upbringing, education, and environment.
This foundational understanding is essential not just in relationships but also in how we approach money.
Temperament influences how we budget, spend, save, and even how we talk about money. Here’s how each temperament—Yellow, Red, Blue, and Green—sees financial decisions through a unique lens:
YELLOW (Sanguine): The Fun-Loving Giver- Wiring: Optimistic, relational, in-the-moment.
- Financial Outlook: Sees money as a way to connect and create experiences. Often spontaneous and generous, but may avoid serious conversations about finances out of fear of conflict or damaging relationships.
- Growth Tip: Build guardrails around spending while leaving room for joy. Schedule regular money conversations to reduce anxiety.
- Wiring: Goal-driven, results-oriented, confident.
- Financial Outlook: Excels at goal setting, budgeting for success, and achieving results. May be impulsive or steamroll others in decision-making.
- Growth Tip: Invite feedback and take the time to consider other perspectives. Collaboration builds trust.
- Wiring: Detail-oriented, safety-driven, analytical.
- Financial Outlook: Needs detailed plans, emergency savings, and financial security. Prefers structure and predictability.
- Growth Tip: Communicate your need for time to process financial decisions. Allow room for flexibility while maintaining your desire for order.
- Wiring: Calm, steady, conflict-avoidant.
- Financial Outlook: Values simplicity, consistency, and low-stress systems. May avoid decisions that involve conflict or complexity.
- Growth Tip: Don’t be afraid to speak up about your financial opinions. Take the time you need, but be intentional about engaging.
Most miscommunication is not intentional. For instance, it could be that you’re speaking ‘blue,’ and they’re hearing ‘yellow.’” That misalignment can be costly, both relationally and financially.
To bridge the gap, learn to recognize both your own temperament and the temperament of the person you're speaking with. Then, speak their language.
Example: A Yellow Talking to a Blue- A Yellow might say: “Hey _______, I know details matter to you. Can we sit down together and make a plan that gives us both a vision with a little room for fun?”
- This honors the Blue’s need for order and gives space for the Yellow’s desire for connection.
- Rather than saying, “W