Faithfully Single - Not Settling

What does your outfit say on a first date? 👗👔 In this episode, we talk about whether we actually judge someone based on what they wear—or whether we’re simply noticing the effort, cleanliness, and level of dress for the occasion. We also get into the pressure of figuring out what to wear to singles events, whether being overdressed means you're trying too hard, and how much clothes can influence our first impressions. Plus, we have a question for the guys: Do you actually notice what women wear on a first date? Come join the conversation and tell us what you usually wear on a first date! #dating #datingandrelationships #datingshow #singlelife #christiansingles #FaithfullySingle #datingadvice #datingstruggles #christiandating #christian #faith

Have you ever walked away from a date convinced they judged everything about you? In this episode, we talk about the vulnerability of dating, how easily we can misread someone’s silence or lack of reaction, and how our own negative assumptions can make us close ourselves off. We talk about giving people more than one date, the difference between shyness and disinterest, and why we sometimes assume others are thinking negatively about us when we don't actually know what they're thinking. Most importantly, we discuss how to challenge that negative narrative and choose a more positive perspective. If you've ever left a date overthinking everything you said, this conversation is for you. #dating #datingandrelationships #datingshow #singlelife #christiansingles #FaithfullySingle #datingadvice #datingstruggles #christiandating #christian #faith

Being single isn’t just about dating—sometimes it means handling everything yourself. 😩 After dealing with a frustrating house-painting experience, Rebecca started wondering: would this have gone differently if she had a husband there to back her up? We talk about contractors, car repairs, comparing quotes, advocating for yourself, and the challenge of making big decisions without a built-in partner to say, “Nope, that doesn’t look right.” Being independent can be empowering—but sometimes it would be nice to have someone in your corner. 😂❤️ Have you ever wondered if a contractor or mechanic was taking advantage of you? Tell us your story!

How do you actually flirt with someone without suddenly forgetting how to behave like a normal human being? 😂

In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, Rebecca brings out a book about flirting—and quickly realizes she may have been making this whole thing way more complicated than it needs to be.

We tend to think flirting requires the perfect line, an unmistakable signal, or some magical moment where sparks start flying.

But what if flirting is really just about making a connection and showing someone you're interested?

That sounds simple enough… until we start reading the supposed signs of attraction.

Fixing his hair. The eyebrow flash. Playing with your hair. Dangling your shoe. Exposing your wrist?!

And apparently we're supposed to touch his elbow. 😂

Some of these “flirting signals” sound suspiciously similar to things we do when we're just nervous—which raises another question: Are we already flirting without realizing we're doing it?

Maybe talking to someone you're attracted to doesn't need to carry so much pressure. You don't need every word to be perfect or some giant neon sign announcing “I LIKE YOU.”

Sometimes simply starting a conversation, smiling, showing interest, and giving someone an opportunity to connect might be enough.

And maybe we're all a little better at flirting than we think.

Tell us: What's your go-to way of letting someone know you're interested? Because clearly we could use the help. 😂❤️

Dating someone from another country sounds exciting—but what happens when you're not just dating another person, you're also learning an entirely different culture?

In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, Rebecca shares what it was like dating a man from China after studying Mandarin and spending time in Beijing.

Even with some knowledge of Chinese culture, there were challenges she hadn't necessarily expected—from a language barrier that made communication difficult to cultural customs and etiquette that could easily be misunderstood if you didn't grow up with them.

And that got us thinking…

What happens when you meet the family? What traditions do you follow? What if something completely normal to you is considered rude to them? And if the relationship eventually becomes a marriage, how do you combine two cultures when raising a family?

But maybe those differences don't have to be problems.

They could also mean learning new traditions, experiencing another culture from the inside, seeing the world differently, and creating a family that incorporates the best parts of both backgrounds.

And cultural differences aren't limited to different countries. Sometimes even two families from the same place can have completely different ways of communicating and celebrating holidays.

The bigger question might be whether two people are willing to communicate, learn, give each other grace, and create something together. ❤️

Would you date—or have you dated—someone from another country or culture? Tell us what surprised you most!

Apparently all it takes is an accent and a passport and suddenly we're interested. 😂

After KC gets back from a cruise through Italy, Greece, and Turkey, we're tackling a very serious dating question:

Why are foreign men sometimes instantly more attractive simply because they're… foreign?

Is it the accent? The culture? Different mannerisms? The vacation atmosphere? Or are we just attracted to people who feel different from what we're used to?

Rebecca also confesses that apparently all a man has to do is tell her he's Canadian and his attractiveness immediately increases. 🇨🇦😂

But somehow our completely unserious conversation actually leads us to a pretty encouraging realization about dating.

When we're younger, so much of our energy goes into trying to fit in. But as adults, the things that make us different might actually be the things that make us interesting and attractive to someone else.

Your personality. Your quirks. Your interests. Even the things you've spent years thinking make you stand out too much.

Maybe attraction isn't always about being the most conventionally attractive person in the room.

Sometimes it's simply about being different enough to be memorable—and confident enough to be yourself.

So tell us: Is there a country or accent that instantly makes someone more attractive to you? 😂❤️

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “I should be married by now”?

Maybe you thought you'd be married by 25. Or 30. Or 35. Maybe you expected to have kids by now. And when those milestones don't happen on schedule, it can start to feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're somehow falling behind.

In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, we continue our conversation about the stigma surrounding singleness—and this time, we're talking about the pressure that comes from outside AND inside ourselves.

We talk about how easily marriage can start feeling like a measure of success. You can build a career, grow in your faith, create an incredible life, and accomplish so much—but somehow still feel “behind” because you haven't found your person yet.

Rebecca compares it to missing a few days of school and suddenly feeling like you have to catch up.

Except dating doesn't work that way.

There's no assignment you can finish faster. There's no extra credit that guarantees marriage. And rushing because you feel like you're running out of time can create another problem: the temptation to settle for someone who isn't right just so you can meet an imaginary deadline.

We also talk about how our churches have changed in the way they address singles—and why acknowledging that single people are already complete members of their faith communities matters.

Marriage isn't the point when your real life finally begins.

You aren't incomplete. You haven't failed. And you don't need to force a relationship just because your life doesn't match the timeline you once imagined.

You're allowed to want marriage without treating singleness like something you failed to finish on time. ❤️

If you've ever felt behind because you're single, comment “I am whole and successful.”

Have you ever almost skipped an activity because you thought, “I don't look good enough today…and there are going to be guys there”? 😬

We've both felt that pressure.

In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, we talk about the expectation we sometimes put on ourselves to look our absolute best anytime there's a possibility of meeting someone.

Hair done. Makeup done. Cute outfit. Everything just right.

But there's a problem: you can meet someone anywhere.

At church. At the grocery store. At the gym when you're sweaty. Getting gas. Or on the exact day you threw your hair up and decided you didn't care what you looked like.

Rebecca shares how she almost didn't want to go to church because she didn't feel like she looked good enough—and then realized something: isn't showing up more important than looking perfect while you're there?

We also talk about whether trying so hard to look our best can sometimes come from insecurity. Ironically, when we're comfortable in what we're wearing, we might actually feel more confident and be more willing to talk to people.

Because eventually, whoever we date is going to see us without the perfect hair, makeup, and outfit anyway. 😂

Maybe putting yourself out there doesn't mean looking perfect every time.

Maybe sometimes it just means showing up as you are.

Do you feel more confident when you're completely dressed up, or when you're comfortable and casual? Tell us in the comments! ❤️

We've all heard about “the ick”—that random moment when someone you're attracted to does one little thing and suddenly… nope. 😬 But should one awkward moment really be enough to write someone off? In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, we debate whether the ick is something you should trust—or whether dating culture has taken it a little too far. Rebecca shares what happened when a guy she was interested in tried a flirty move that immediately gave her a MAJOR ick. She thought the attraction might be gone…until she kept talking to him. The more she got to know him, the more attractive he became. And now that he's talking to other women? She's getting a little jealous. 😂 So apparently, you CAN come back from the ick. We talk about the difference between an actual red flag and a harmless quirk, why one weird moment might not represent someone's entire personality, and how quickly we can reject someone before learning the story behind whatever turned us off. Because we'd probably want the same grace. None of us is going to be perfectly charming, attractive, and “on” 100% of the time. Maybe before letting one tiny thing kill a potentially great connection, it's worth asking: Is this actually a problem—or did a normal human just have an awkward moment?

Someone's dating profile says Christian. You meet them at church. They tell you they believe in God.

But how do you figure out what faith actually looks like in their everyday life?

In this episode of Faithfully Single — Not Settling, we talk about one of the trickier parts of faith-based dating: determining whether you and the person you're dating actually approach your faith in compatible ways.

Because saying “I believe in God” can mean very different things to different people.

We share experiences where someone's actions didn't match what we expected based on the faith they professed, and we talk about ways to have deeper conversations without making the first few dates feel like a spiritual job interview.

What does their prayer life look like? Do they read scripture? How do they incorporate God into their everyday decisions? What's their favorite scripture—and why? What do they love about living their faith?

Sometimes the answers can tell you much more than simply asking, “Are you Christian?”

But we also wrestle with the other side of this conversation: How careful should we be about judging someone who's simply at a different place in their spiritual journey? Do you need someone whose faith looks like yours today, or could you grow together?

Ultimately, it's not about finding someone who can check the Christian box. It's about understanding what spiritual compatibility means to you and whether you're both hoping to build the same kind of life.