Famous at Home

You love your kids. So why do you miss who you used to be? Researcher Ann Somers Hogg, in her latest study on parental loneliness, found that for many parents, loneliness isn’t about friends. It’s about losing yourself and your identity. She shares the five types of parent loneliness, why “go make more friends” isn’t the fix for everyone, and what helped parents find their way back. Take the screener in the show notes to find your type. 

Here are some highlights: 

• Isolation is objective. Loneliness is the gap between the connection you want and the connection you feel.
• You can be surrounded by people and still be lonely.
• About two-thirds of parents say they’re lonely.
• A parent’s loneliness can predict their child’s loneliness years later.
• There are 5 types of loneliness found in the research.
• Left unnamed, loneliness turns into apathy.
• Parents tried AI along the way, but nobody credited it with solving their loneliness.

Show Notes: 

Find your type of loneliness: Download the five-question screener from the Christensen Institute: https://www.christenseninstitute.org/publication/parental-loneliness/

The research: Unbundling Parental Loneliness: Specific Diagnoses for Effective Treatment: https://www.christenseninstitute.org/publication/parental-loneliness/

Get a copy of the 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience: 
https://link.amazon/B03YgMGYb

Sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Check out our new online marriage coaching option.
https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageexperience

Need a marriage intensive? Apply now.
https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh?
https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
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Luke Smallbone of for KING + COUNTRY shares the story of forgiveness with his own brothers and takes us behind the scenes of Drummer Boy, in theaters November 6. A film about reconciliation, Luke shares how he had to live it first. He shares why forgiveness puts your pride on the line. And if there’s someone in your family you haven’t spoken to in a long time, why someone has to go first.

Here are some key takeaways:

• Drift starts small. Creative and business differences crept into the brothers’ relationship.
• Reconciliation started with an uncomfortable conversation and owning their part.
• Forgiveness isn’t one and done. Rebuild trust, keep forgiving, and pick up the phone when suspicion creeps in.
• “I got my brother back.” The film was already a win before it hit theaters.
• When two people can’t get along, often one or both just has to be right.
• Learn to forgive the people you once thought were unforgivable. That’s where freedom is.

Show Notes: 
Drummer Boy is in theaters November 6. Opening weekend only (Nov 6–8): BOGO Deal: buy one ticket, gift one free at https://www.angel.com/drummer with promo code GIFT.

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“Little Drummer Boy” music video: https://youtu.be/NzEX3QMuVPM?si=dKgLhYyvBHhKPtqw

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
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Your spouse brings you a hurt, and before you know it, you’re defending yourself or rushing to fix it. Dr. Josh uses an example from his own marriage and unpacks why we do this: an old wound gets stirred up, and we react to the past instead of the person in front of us. When we jump to fixing, our spouse can feel like a problem to solve or a burden to get through. Plus, Dr. Josh shares the three words that get you back to what’s really broken: the connection.

Here are some key takeaways:

• Most criticism carries a feeling. Listen for the feeling, not just the words.
• Defensiveness keeps the pain cycle spinning.
• We often react to an old wound, not the person in front of us.
• The two three-word phrases that help you respond to the hurt.
• How to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. 
• Name the opponent (illness, stress, a hard week), not your spouse.

Show notes:

Check out our new online marriage coaching option. 
https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageexperience

Sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Need a marriage intensive? Apply now.
https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Get a copy of the 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience: 
https://link.amazon/B03YgMGYb

Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh?
https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Get Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd: https://link.amazon/B0198ebp4

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

He’s up at 5AM thinking, “Must be nice to sleep in.” She’s thinking, “Must be nice to leave the house.” Sound familiar?

In this episode, Dr. Josh unpacks how tired spouses start keeping score, and four practical ways to get back on the same team.

Here are some key takeaways:

• “Must be nice” is where scorekeeping starts.
• When we don’t feel seen, we cope: sarcasm, martyrdom, attacking, or going silent.
• Ask yourself: do I really believe this is their character? Usually, it isn’t.
• Swap “you” for “we, us, our," and an "us-against-the-world" attitude.
• Walk the tightrope of responsibility. Own your part without falling into blame or shame.
• Name your opponents: kids, work, travel, in-laws, money, addiction. Bring them into the light.
• Every day, say one moment you felt seen, heard, loved, or appreciated.

Show Notes:
Sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Need a marriage intensive? Apply now.
https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Get a copy of the 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience: 
https://link.amazon/B03YgMGYb

Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh?
https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

Does your family experience you as present, or just available? Do you find yourself hoping joy will one day find you once things slow down? Dr. Josh gets practical about building joy into your days, weeks, and year: 30-second habits, celebrations, and what he calls "enthusiastic welcoming." This is part two of our joy series. Don't try it all. Pick one and start there. It's the two-degree shifts that make all the difference. 

Here are some key takeaways:

• Joy is built relationally.
• Numb the hard feelings and you numb the good ones too.
• Receive, relive, remember. Don't just list what you're grateful for. Step back into the moment.
• Microdose joy. Thirty seconds watching a bird or your kid's wonder counts.
• Welcome your people like you're glad they're here.
• Sabbath lets your soul catch up to your body.
• Ask yourself: who needs to feel my delight?

Show Notes: 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching


Need a marriage intensive? Apply now.
https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh?
https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

For some reason, we inherently believe that joy is a byproduct of success. Yet, we finish the project, celebrate for five minutes, and move on to the next thing, waking up one day confused as to why the joy didn't seem to follow.

In this episode, Dr. Josh shares why so many leaders and parents lose joy, and what joy really is: not a feeling or a byproduct of success, but a present-tense experience rooted in our trust in God. Where happiness depends on circumstances; joy depends on position.

Here are some takeaways and highlights: 

• Ask: does my family experience me as proud of what they do, or delighted that they exist?
• Screens keep us in the left brain. Relational joy lives in the right brain.
• Gratitude has to be experienced, not just listed.
• Your calendar is discipling you. What is it teaching you about joy?
• How and why God scheduled joy. 

Show Notes: 

Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now. https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Get a copy of The Other Half of Church:
https://link.amazon/B0fjHFamO

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

When was the last time you jumped in a pile of leaves without taking a picture of it? And do you know what not doing this is doing to your nervous system? 

In this week's episode, Dr. Josh talks about what it means to go analog in a digital world. He covers why our screens have quietly become our masters, what half-attention teaches our kids, and the small two-degree shifts that bring us back to our own soul, our spouse, and our kids. You don't have to get rid of your devices. But you may need to get rid of your vices. 

Here are some highlights: 

• Anything you can't fast from owns you.
• Connection comes from small two-degree shifts, not one radical decision.
• Kids notice your continous partial attention. When they say "look at me," they deserve all of you.
• Go analog: find what works for you (e.g. no dings, phone stays inside when you play, one screen-free room, one screen-free time of day.)
• Boredom isn't the enemy. It's where creativity starts.
• Use screens to create, not just consume.
• God often speaks in the silence, and our noise can drown Him out.

Show Notes: 
Looking for one-on-one coaching with Dr. Josh to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS
 
Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

What if you could have a rock-solid marriage in just 15 minutes a day? This is not a gimmick. 

Emotional disconnection rarely happens all at once. It happens through small, subtle shifts as work, kids, schedules, and the demands of life slowly pull us away from each other.

In this episode, Dr. Josh shares the fundamental exercise he's seen help marriages grow by leaps and bounds. It's a simple daily practice he calls the 15-Minute Exercise.

You’ll learn:

• The simple daily question every couple can ask each other
• Why your spouse is a person to love, not a problem to solve
• The three most powerful words to transform a difficult conversation
• How to listen without fixing, defending, or becoming defensive
• How this simple practice can become a lifestyle rather than another item on your to-do list

Your marriage doesn’t always need a major overhaul. Sometimes it needs a two-degree shift.

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode!
Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece! 
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

Show Notes:

Looking for one-on-one coaching to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS
 
Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

What if becoming a healthier leader at home doesn’t require a major overhaul, but simply a two-degree shift?
 
High-capacity leaders know how to solve problems, make decisions, and get things done. But the skills that make you effective at work don’t always translate at home. That’s because your greatest strengths, like your drive, capacity, and ability to fix things, can keep you from slowing down, listening, and connecting with the biggest fans under your roof.
 
In this episode, Dr. Josh explores how small relational shifts can change the way you lead in your marriage and family. He also provides small, practical, two-degree shifts that can change the trajectory of your family and the atmosphere of your home. You don’t need a 90-degree turn. You just need two degrees. 

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 The 2-Degree Shift That Changes Everything 
1:30 Why High-Capacity Leaders Struggle at Home 
2:28 You Don't Need a 90-Degree Turn
4:38 The Rubber Band That Changed How I Parent
8:00 The Three Most Important Words You Can Use in Your Home
9:30 Why Leadership at Work Doesn’t Translate at Home
11:10 From the Pain Cycle to the Peace Cycle
13:50 How to Pay Attention to Your Unrealized Emotions
21:00 The 2-Degree Shift That’s Gold for Your Children 
22:45 The Most Powerful Two-Degree Shift for Your Marriage 
24:05 Find Your “Adirondack Chair” Moment 
25:15 Pick One Shift. Practice It for 30 Days 

Show Notes:
Looking for one-on-one coaching to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited.
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS
 
Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Fall brings new rhythms, new opportunities, and a fuller calendar. But not every good opportunity is right for your family in this season.

In this episode, Dr. Josh spends some time sharing how to wade through everything competing for your time, attention, and identity. He leaves us with one question: "Is your schedule helping your family live out of who God called you to be"? 

He helps you find clarity in your decisions, protect your marriage, connect with your kids, and build a schedule around what matters most.

Here are some highlights: 

• Clarifying your family’s yeses and nos
• Protecting intimacy in your marriage
• Getting on the same team with your spouse
• Connecting with your kids in everyday moments
• Protecting peace without missing what matters
• Letting your values, not your calendar, set the pace
• Abiding in Jesus to discern what belongs in this season

Time Stamps: 
00:00 Introduction
2:30 Are Christian families much different than the rest of the world?
4:15 Why this season requires clarity
11:30 When successful leaders feel like their family gets the leftovers
15:30 How family values bring clarity to your schedule
20:00 Identifying the opponents to intimacy in your marriage
25:30 Creating an “Us Against the World” attitude in your marriage
30:30 Why we sometimes choose chaos over quiet
33:00 “Let your yes be yes and your no be no”
37:00 The ordinary moments that create extraordinary connection
42:00 What your tongue reveals about your heart
46:00 How to lead your family with peace and joy

Show Notes: 

Looking for leadership coaching to be famous at home? 
https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoaching

Men, sign up for the next Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: 
https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece!
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/famous