Have you ever said your child, “Don’t yell at your brother!” What’s happening in a child’s body filled with anger is louder than what’s going on in their brain. As Christi says in this episode, “Our body sends 10 messages to our brain for every 1 our brain sends to our body.” This is why lecturing an overwhelmed child often feels useless. 

In other words, our body speaks louder than our brain. So why have we stopped listening to the body? What’s actually going in our child’s body in their anger? What’s happening on our body in our anger? And why, for our children, is loving touch the most powerful way for the body to know “felt safety?”

As we close out season 6 on Relational Intelligence in Kids, Christi answers these questions and shares why the body protects our children anytime there is a threat to their connection, belonging, safety, and dignity. She also explains how we as parents can help our kids restore felt safety and why these principles will be an integral part of KidsRQ.

Time Stamps:
0:00 KidsRQ and body-based tools
3:00 Why the body matters for healing
5:20 The tripartite God and what it means for us created in His image
9:12 How the nervous system and emotions protect children
17:47 Relating to our kids on earth as in heaven
21:52 Moving emotion through your body
25:27 Ways to learn this through Famous at Home
 
Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

Interested in Tender & Fierce? Click here to join interest list: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Have you ever taken a device from your child only to have them lose their ever-loving mind? According to social researcher Dr. Jean Twenge, “That’s a good thing.”

Dr. Twenge graciously joins us in season 6 to talk about raising kids in a high-tech world. Dr. Twenge is one of the most prominent researchers of our day on generational differences and how screens are harming our brains and ability to related. But not only does she research it, she lives it and makes it incredibly practical for us as parents.

She highlights a few key truths. For example, did you know that the average teen uses just social media alone for 5 hours a day? Also, why are we not questioning Silicon Valley CEOs who follow the rules of drug dealers? “Don’t get high off your own supply.”

Dr. Twenge not only talks about these facts but also chronologically walks us through each age for setting tech rules (see time stamps).

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:48 Dr. Jean Twenge shares research on happiness and what she did with her own children
7:50 What to do if your child is the only one who doesn’t have a screen
10:54 Tech rules for preschool - early childhood years
15:25 The research on happiness, depression, & inattention
17:57 Tech rules for late childhood years - pre-teen years
20:05 Latest trend: AI boyfriends and girlfriends
22:50 Video-gaming
24:45 Tech rules for teen years

Show Notes:
Get Dr. Jean Twenge’s latest book 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World: https://amzn.to/4pP5o9m

To book Dr. Jean Twenge or see more of her works: https://www.jeantwenge.com/
 
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com
 
Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com
 
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

"I used to think church was boring," says Landon, Josh and Christi’s 13-year-old son. He joins the show to talk about how he is learning to navigate faith and doubt, the defining faith moments he's had as a child, and what he's focused on now that he's entering his teenage years. 

In this episode, we continue season 6 on Relational Intelligence in Kids by talking about how kids navigate faith and our role as parents in coming alongside them. 

Landon shares the defining moments in his life that helped him through seasons of doubt, fear, and boredom. He also shares the most impactful moments he's had in his faith journey and what he sees as the most effective way parents can lead their children spiritually.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:40 Landon describes his experience of church and learning to hear the voice of God
8:04 Where a flip switched for Landon’s faith
14:30 Questions a 13-year-old asks about hearing God’s voice
17:34 The different journeys of doubt and faith
23:04 Landon’s perspective on how parents can show up in their children’s faith journey
31:08 Joy angels 

Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

If you have children, this episode is worth every minute. Kennedy Straub, Josh and Christi’s beloved daughter, joins the show to talk about how she’s learning to navigate emotions and feelings through the lens of an 11-year-old.
 
In this episode, we continue season 6 on Relational Intelligence in Kids by talking about the difference between emotions and feelings. For example, did you know that emotions keep you safe and feelings keep you aware? Or that one of them causes you “to move” or take action?
 
Kennedy also shares the tools she’s using to identify feelings and emotions in her life, what kids need from their parents in their uncomfortable feelings, and how her version of “spiritual jiujitsu” is helping her navigate those BIG feelings in prayer.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:25 The difference between feelings and emotions
6:38 An introduction to all things Kennedy
9:40 Iceberg of emotions through the eyes of an 11-year-old
13:40 Tools to identify the emotions under the iceberg
17:04 What kids need from parents in their uncomfortable emotions
24:08 Kennedy’s analogy for Jesus helping with emotions
 
Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Make no mistake, we live in a matrix. And the bar set by Western culture for raising children is deceptively low. As parents, we do everything we can to give our kids an advantage. But is more parenting “knowledge“ really what we need? Are child outcomes really better today than they were 10 to 20 years ago?
 
In this episode, we continue season 6 on Relational Intelligence in Kids by offering a new, yet ancient, paradigm for raising our children -- a paradigm that removes shame, grants God-given purpose, and breaks us free from the matrix. 
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:13 What is the bar we’re setting for our kids?
3:02 Is more parenting “knowledge” really what we’re missing?
8:00 What makes KidsRQ unique
11:43 Why thinking, feeling, and relating at the same time is where growth happens
14:50 A vision for kids beyond the Western matrix
18:20 Raising “living letters” to the world
25:00 How life and fruit can grow from our emotions 

Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Kids are vulnerable, and vulnerability longs for safety. Perhaps it’s no wonder Jesus tells us to become like little children. Over time, our hearts grow hardened.

In this episode, Josh describes what children need, and talks about the “why” behind the new KidsRQ (Relational Intelligence) curriculum. 

*Note: This is a continuation from last week's episode Cultivating Relational Intelligence in Kids
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:20 The vulnerability and dependence of a child
9:40 The presence of Jesus in our healing journey
f11:50 KidsRQ curriculum layout and experiential exercises
16:35 Get in with a free trial of KidsRQ 

Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

We all want to raise emotionally intelligent kids. Even more, we want them to be spiritually alive. For us, that’s what relational intelligence is all about. An overflow of experiencing the relational gospel of Jesus.

As we begin season 6, we’re covering relational intelligence in kids. In this episode, we start by introducing a brand new initiative called KidsRQ!

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
3:00 The shift from emotional to relational intelligence
7:56 Kevin Wallace joins the show to talk about the creative journey
14:30 What is KidsRQ?
19:06 Emotion regulation and increasing rates of anxiety and depression in kids
23:18 The key components of KidsRQ

Show Notes:
Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com 

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Christi and Josh talk about the nervous system, childhood wounds, and why the motivation behind our spouse’s anger or criticism is deeper than we often give them credit for.

If you’re looking to have an understanding of your pain cycle and how to cultivate a deeper sense of emotional safety in your marriage, this episode is for you.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:15 Christi and Josh update on life this summer
6:15 Josh shares what’s coming for season 6
7:50 Introduction to the emotionally safe marriage
10:40 Your spouse’s motivation in the pain cycle
18:30 The nervous system, childhood wounds, and your pain cycle
29:17 A practice for interrupting your pain cycle and seeing your spouse
32:25 Learning what feels “safe” for you

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

The Tender & Fierce cohort is coming up again this fall! As we find ourselves sitting in between seasons on the Famous at Home podcast, we are replaying an interview with Christi about what it means to awaken the tender & fierce parts of your heart.

In this interview, Christi talks about how Tender & Fierce got started and answers questions about the Tender & Fierce cohort. She also shares how to awaken the tender and fierce part of who you are, why it begins with curiosity, and how it is enhanced through community.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
4:50 The genesis of and meaning behind Tender & Fierce 
10:46 What you can expect from Tender & Fierce
17:24 Who is Tender & Fierce for?
19:10 Why a Tender & Fierce retreat?
22:05 How to awaken your heart to be tender & fierce

Show Notes: 
Sign up for the Fall 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.
https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

For more information about the Tender & Fierce Cohort, click here. 
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

If you’re interested in a marriage coaching cohort or intensive, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Think about the deep neurobiological connection happening in your brain as you walk into a room and encounter someone who lights up at your presence, and the fulfilling sensation of knowing that person is beaming from the inside out with only one message, “I am so glad to be with YOU!”
 
Without relational joy, there is no relational intelligence. Instead, relational joy is the antidote to the numbing out of our hurried lives because you walk around with a sense of knowing you are seen and loved.

As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, Josh provides what he calls the “JOY STARTS framework”—four principles and corresponding practices spelling the word JOYS to jumpstart relational joy in your life and in the lives of those around you. 

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction & Review of Season 5
4:54 Moving from self-protection to experience life-giving relationships
6:27 How our senses are tied to relational joy
11:38 What relational joy feels like
13:11 Introduction to the JOYS STARTS Framework
13:50 Joy is found in the face - practices that increase facial delight
21:40 Our brains are built for connection - practices for sharing joyful moments
25:02 You return to joy, not just peace - practices for redeemed conflict resolution and resilience
30:51 Set rhythms of joy - practices for daily joy rituals
33:32 Practices for building relational joy in a screen-saturated world

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome