Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things.

 

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and listeners will get 20% off! 

 

Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. http://selfservetoys.com

Here’s the highlights!

In finding her fat identity:

• Overcoming child sexual abuse
• Coming out as queer
• Touching a girl’s hand for the first time
• Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again
• “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that your body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker

Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat

• “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh
• The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role”
• Food is not poison.
• My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice.
• I love your feelings
• Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy
• Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books
• Not having to earn love.

About Fat SEX!

• “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown 
• “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown 
• Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party
• Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I... they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to f^&*( me until I juggle… but respectfully.
• Care about having sex with fat people. Touch us and listen to us.
• Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino http://tristantaormino.com/sex-out-loud/about/
• All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are.
• This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal.
• It was so cool to use my body to teach.
• It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm!
• We help each other feel safe.
• “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase: https://shevibe.com/curvy-girl-sex-by-elle-chase.aspx
• Matie is awesome!
• You can find Matie at https://www.selfservetoys.com/