81. F*ck Growth: How Self-Help Sabotages Results

Yo, how badly do you want to crush it? One thing I loved about being a Dating Coach was how far guys pushed their comfort zones. There was a bootcamp one night in NY, at Brass Monkey, when one of my students got SO in state that he was made out with 13 girls straight. And not like a creepy type of make-out (sometimes guys force themselves onto girls). These girls were loving it. And he didn’t say ANYTHING.   He was going up to them and within 30 seconds he was passionately making out with them. Purely off of eye contact, how he carried himself, and the energy he had. It’s what made Pickup & Cold Approach so rewarding. Instant feedback and getting results. The ability to adjust, learn and do it better next time. But it gets a little more blurry in the “real world”... Everything else lacks the solid structure that ‘game’ has. … OR so that’s what most people think. The reason most guys fail at business, dating and their career is because of the comfort zone trap. They know they should take-action, but they’re not doing it consistently and they’re falling behind on momentum. And they start reading Self-Help books to help them manage their anxiety, failures and make them feel better. They’re not in control of their lives… where they want to be…  and they start hating and rationalizing their results. That’s why having mentors and coaches are so important. They push you forward with the goals and the lifestyle you want to create… they give you higher leverage strategies to execute… and they help you with your blind spots. Even though some can do it without mentors, the success-rate is much higher when you have them around (in my experience, around 90% higher). If don’t have any mentors, today’s podcast will help ensure you’re always moving in the right direction of your path. Clearly focus on how to stop sabotaging yourself and overcome procrastination. Enjoy!