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🎙️ F*ck, Balance is BULLSH!T!
Why work-life balance doesn’t exist (and what matters more) with Nigel Marsh
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💭 "Maybe we've been chasing the wrong thing all along."
We've all heard the advice.
"You just need better work-life balance."
- Work a little less
- Exercise a little more.
- Take proper holidays.
- Find more "me time".
Easy, right?
Except life doesn't work like that.
- Kids get sick.
- Businesses become demanding.
- Parents get older.
- Relationships evolve.
- Dreams change.
And suddenly, "balance" feels like another impossible standard we're somehow expected to achieve.
Maybe that's because balance was never the goal.
That was exactly where this conversation with Nigel Marsh began.
Nigel Marsh is one of Australia's most respected authors, speakers and storytellers.
He's the best selling author of Fat, Forty & Fired, Overworked & Underlaid, Fit, Fifty & Fired Up and Smary, Stupid & Sixty.
He’s also the creator of Sydney Skinny, host of the brilliant Five of My Life podcast, and the speaker behind one of the world’s most watched TED Talks on work-life balance.
But what I love most about Nigel isn’t his résumé.
It’s his willingness to question the things the rest of us simply accept.
Instead of asking,
“How do I find balance?”
He asks,
“What kind of life do I actually want?”
That one question changed the way I think.
Together we explore why promotions stop feeling exciting, why being busy has become a badge of honour, why saying “no” might be one of the healthiest things we can learn, and why so many of us eventually realise we’re living someone else’s definition of success.
If you’ve been questioning your career, your priorities, or simply wondering what the next chapter of your life could look like, this conversation will challenge the way you think about success, purpose and what really matters.
Because maybe balance isn’t what we’re searching for.
Maybe we’re searching for a life that feels like our own.
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❤️ This episode is for you if…
If you've been questioning you career, your priorities, or what success really looks like, this conversation will challenge the way you think about the second half of your life.
✔️ You’re constantly busy but rarely feel present.
✔️ Success doesn’t feel the way it used to.
✔️ You’re juggling work, family and everyone else’s expectations.
✔️ You’re wondering what comes next.
✔️ You’re ready to redefine success on your own terms.
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🎧 Inside this conversation
🧠 Why Nigel believes work-life balance is one of the biggest myths we’ve ever been sold.
💼 How your definition of success naturally changes as you get older.
❤️ Why relationships become more important than achievements.
🔥 Why redundancy became one of the best things that ever happened to Nigel.
🌊 What Sydney Skinny taught Nigel about courage, vulnerability and community.
✨ Why curiosity keeps us young.
🎙️ Why he created the Five of My Life podcast.
🎯 How to stop living by everyone else’s expectations.
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💥 Midlife Mythbusters
❌ Myth: Work-life balance is something you’ll eventually achieve.
✅ Reality: Life constantly changes. Instead of chasing balance, create a life that reflects what matters most right now.
❌ Myth: Success should always look the same.
✅ Reality: Success evolves. Midlife gives us permission to redefine it.
❌ Myth: It’s too late to change direction.
✅ Reality: Some of life’s most fulfilling chapters begin after 40.
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💛 Dom’s Take
I went into this conversation expecting to talk about work-life balance.
I came out questioning the way I’ve been living.
Nigel reminded me that maybe the goal isn’t fitting more into life.
Maybe it’s having the courage to choose what really matters.
I’ve thought about that ever since.
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🎯 Try This Before You’re 50
Say no to one thing you’ve been saying yes to out of habit.
Then ask yourself:
“Does this belong in the life I’m trying to build?”
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🌐 Connect with Nigel
🌍 Website
🎙️ Five of My Life Podcast
🎥 TED Talk: How to Make Work-Life Balance Work
💼 LinkedIn
📸 Instagram
📚 Books:
- Fat, Forty and Fired
- Overworked & Underlaid
- Fit, Fifty & Fired Up
- Smart, Stupid and Sixty
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Nigel Marsh, work life balance, work-life integration, TED Talk, Five of My Life, Sydney Skinny, burnout, career change, midlife, midlife podcast, second half of life, reinvention, happiness, meaningful work, intentional living, personal growth, leadership, mindset, success after 40, life after 50, purpose, wellbeing, self development, confidence, Dom Hind, F*ck I’m Nearly 50, Australian podcast, productivity myths, values, designing your life
Let me know what you'd love to hear about next.
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Because f*ck, we’re nearly 50… and isn’t that amazing? 🚀
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