F*ck It Mothering

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! It's that time of the month, (no, not THAT time of the month 🎈), so grab your favorite beverage, barricade yourself in your favorite hiding spot from your kids, and get ready to have some fun!

Amanda Haro & Samantha Trujillo are back (minus Amanda de La Madriz, who was in Italy, the lucky b*tch) to say f*ck it to the annoying parts of motherhood.

Like the Christmas day carnage that happens to our living rooms. And all the leftover food that goes to waste. And when the turkey gets too turkey-y. And putting expectations on ourselves to create perfect Christmas magic when mama is too tired.

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas!

This one is a special Christmas edition. 3 moms having an honest conversation about ways to let go of what stresses moms out so we can make space for what makes moms happy.

Join Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz as they say f*ck it to:

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In this conversation, Amanda and Virginie discuss the complexities of navigating holiday boundaries, cultural differences in Christmas celebrations, and the importance of communication within families. They explore the Santa tradition, gift-giving practices, and the stress associated with holiday planning. The discussion highlights the significance of setting boundaries, managing expectations, and balancing personal and family traditions during the festive season. In this engaging conversation, Amanda and Virginie explore the themes of comfort, personal choice, and the complexities of parenting during the holiday season. They discuss the importance of self-expression, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the necessity of open communication in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need to challenge traditional roles and expectations, particularly around holiday obligations, while also reflecting on personal traditions and the joy of being true to oneself.

Moms take on too many responsibilities over the holiday season, leaving them feeling more stressed than joyful.

In this episode, host Amanda Haro is joined by Kelly Siebold & Ashley Moore from the Let's Thrive Postpartum podcast, and they talk about saying NO to holiday stress and YES to everything about Christmas that brings them JOY.

How do you navigate conversations with your partner about what holiday traditions you'll do with your kids?

To elf on the shelf or not?

Do you like cooking the holiday meal or would you rather order food & enjoy a day off?

Does Santa wrap gifts or leave them unwrapped in your house?

3 moms, 3 real Christmas perspectives, and lots of laughs!

motherhood, mom life, Christmas, holidays, elf on the shelf, boundaries, self help, self love

'Mom' has become synonymous with 'wine' in pop culture now. We see it on memes: "Hiding from my kids in the bathtub with a bottle of wine". We see it in alcohol commercials: "Because mommy-ing is stressful". We hear it in song lyrics: "All the wine moms are still holding out, but fuck 'em, it's over".

Yes it's funny...sometimes. But it can also become a slippery slope to women developing drinking habits unconsciously. When we're getting the message from literally everywhere that we should deal with our mom stress at the bottom of a bottle of wine, we find ourselves doing that. Every night.

TO BE CLEAR: THIS EPISODE IS NOT ABOUT SHAMING.

Consuming alcohol is not in and of itself a problem. This episode is simply about uncovering the reasons behind your drinking habits & asking yourself the question, 'Do I like this?' with no shame or judgement, but out of immense LOVE for yourself.

And if you find the answer to that question is, 'no', then guest Anna Charles has some helpful tips on how you can feel in control of your drinking this holiday season. There are ways to reduce your stress as a mom at Christmas without drinking them away.

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Anna's FREE Festive Season Survival Guide.

Anna's website 90 Days Later

drinking control, holiday traditions, mindful drinking, family stress, alcohol habits, social pressures, personal journeys, holiday celebrations, self-care, parenting

Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas!

Host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Jacobs, a financial coach, and they talk about how to do the holidays on a budget without feeling bad about it and while still having fun.

They talk about:

- Navigating the holidays when gift giving is not your love language

- How actually the best part of the holidays is the time we spend with our loved ones

- How to navigate the financial pressures that often accompany this time of year

- How their relationships with the holidays have evolved, particularly in light of recent changes due to COVID-19

You don't have to put yourself into debt in order to have a magical Christmas. Learning how to align holiday traditions with your personal values and financial realities helps moms create a more enjoyable experience for themselves and their families.

Moms–do you get stressed by all the family obligations around the holidays but also feel bad telling your mom or mother-in-law ‘no’? This podcast episode is for YOU!

This is part 2 of a special 8 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids.

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Ryann Watkin, the host of the Raising Wild Hearts podcast. They talk about:

Check out the Raising Wild Hearts podcast with Ryann Watkin here.

Amanda’s guest episode on Raising Wild Hearts “Reclaiming Your Identity After Motherhood”.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 The best intro ever

4:40 F*ck Santa getting all the credit

9:24 F*ck, I gotta move the elf!

14:18 Make holiday traditions your own

20:44 Merry boundary-ed Christmas

26:56 Compromising on holiday traditions in marriage

30:14 Prioritizing your energy over family obligations

36:46 It’s ok that I’m neurotic & you’re normal

41:47 Lightening questions

Intro Song Credit: Ponzoo, royalty free, used from Sound Cloud.

Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas!

This is part 1 of a special 8 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids.

Host Amanda Haro is joined by Julia Hoffman as they dive into the intricacies of holidays after divorce. How can parents work together to create holiday magic for their kids now that they live in separate households? What’s the holiday schedule going to look like? How can you refocus when their other parent drops the ball?

Amanda and Julia share from their own personal experience of co-parenting after divorce,  including:

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Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

3:35 2024 election

6:27 Life is not stable but Christmas is

10:51 Kids outgrowing Santa

16:00 F*ck you, I’m Santa

19:35 Releasing your co-parent to be who they are

24:53 Navigating holiday traditions post divorce

37:59 Balancing holiday responsibilities as co-parents

42:21 Christmas reality vs expectations

58:16 First Christmas after separating; blending families

1:01:53 First time being alone on the holidays

1:06:56 Lightening questions

Intro Song Credit: Ponzoo, royalty free, used from Sound Cloud.

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas!

Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to have an honest, no holding back conversation about the parts of motherhood that suck.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 Behind the scenes - getting the flu and perimenopause periods

3:51 Intro

5:03 F*ck the school morning routine

6:27 SAHM vs working mom and how both are good moms

13:04 Expectation of motherhood vs the reality (and how to accept what is)

16:59 F*ck the “experts”

19:28 When your 7 year old is Chucky for Halloween

22:53 Sassy pre teens and making compromises

31:03 When your kid changes their Halloween costume the day of

32:45 Raising strong, independent little women

34:57 Finding the golden age of motherhood

41:00 F*ck appointments

45:01 F*ck cold and flu season