SEASON 2 > EPISODE 4

In this episode of F*ck, I’m Nearly 50!, I’m joined by coach, facilitator, speaker and all-round bullshit detector Vashti Whitfield.

And honestly… this conversation felt less like an interview and more like a mirror.

Because over the past few months I’ve been doing Vashti’s Radical Reframe program and it has challenged me to look at some things I’d never really stopped to question before.

The stories I’ve been carrying.

The beliefs driving my behaviour.

The patterns that have quietly shaped my relationships, decisions and sense of self for years.

And one of the biggest realisations?

You can be successful. You can be capable. You can be high-functioning. And still be running on old code.

✨ If you’ve ever thought:

• “Why do I keep doing the same thing over and over?”
• “Why do I know what I should do but still don’t do it?”
• “Why do I feel like something’s off, even though my life looks pretty good on paper?”
• “Why do I keep putting everyone else’s needs before my own?”

This episode is for you.

THIS EPISODE GETS INTO:

• 🧠 What a Radical Reframe actually is
• 💭 How our thoughts become beliefs and our beliefs become behaviour
• 🔍 Why it’s so hard to see our own patterns
• ⚡ Why so many people reach their 40s and 50s and realise they’ve been living on autopilot
• ❤️ The powerful concept that your behaviour is your beliefs
• 📖 Looking at your life in chapters and what those chapters reveal
• 🎯 The difference between attachment and commitment
• 💡 Why replacing “should” with “could” creates more freedom and choice
• 📝 How a Bucket List and a Fuck It List can expose what you truly want
• 🎭 The inner characters and stories that hijack us when we’re stressed, scared or threatened
• 🫁 The power of pause, breath and creating space before reacting
• 🌱 Why personal growth isn’t about becoming someone else, but remembering who you are
• 💬 What it means to live intentionally rather than automatically
• ❤️ Grief, resilience and rebuilding life after loss
• 🎬 The story behind Vashti’s beautiful documentary Be Here Now
• 👩‍👧‍👦 What she learned about presence, perspective and raising two young children after losing her husband Andy to cancer

WHAT I LOVED ABOUT THIS CONVERSATION

What I love about Vashti is that she doesn’t tell you what to do. She helps you see what you’re doing. And once you see it… you can’t really unsee it.

There were a few moments in this conversation where I found myself thinking: “Shit… I’ve been doing that for years.” Not because anything was wrong.

But because some of the ways I’d learned to operate no longer fit the life I’m trying to create.

What Vashti’s work has reminded me is that awareness isn’t the end goal.

Choice is. The ability to pause. To notice. To question.

And then consciously decide who you want to be in that moment.

Because maybe the next chapter of our lives isn’t about becoming someone new. Maybe it’s about letting go of everything we’re not.

ABOUT VASHTI WHITFIELD

Vashti Whitfield is an executive coach, facilitator, speaker and creator of Radical Reframe, a transformational coaching program that helps people uncover the beliefs, patterns and stories shaping their lives.

Following the death of her husband Andy Whitfield from cancer, Vashti became known for her powerful documentary Be Here Now, which chronicles their family’s journey through illness, grief, love and resilience.

Today she works with individuals, leaders and organisations helping people navigate change, challenge old thinking and create lives that feel more aligned, intentional and meaningful.

🌐 Learn more: https://www.vashti-whitfield.com

🎬 Watch Be Here Now: https://www.beherenowfilm.com

🎙 Listen to the Radical Reframe Podcast

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