Fear and fear memories are very powerful and you need to fully understand how they are formed and how they are triggered. When you are trying to “win” a female back it is likely she will have strong fears about coming back to the relationship. You must understand how to navigate these fears successfully in order to reunite with her. You can’t just simply tell someone to “forget” about their fears and expect it to work. Fear memories do not work in this manner. They must be conditioned away through positive reinforcement over time.