Transcript:

Welcome back to the Smash system podcast. I’m your host, Nino Prodan. And in this episode, I want to dig deeper into one aspect of fear. And that’s the fear of not being accepted. There is one aspect of humanity. That’s wonderful. We work as a group, we work together in a community. And because of that, we want to be part of a community, we want to be accepted into it. That way we can work together and get more things done, because the manpower because the whole concept of two heads are better than one. You know, you multiply that and more people can get more things done. You can see things from different angles. But the problem is this becomes a double edged sword because working together with people working in a community, you want a certain cohesion, you want to think of like sometimes and to do that you have to act in a certain way. But there’s the problem. Our brains start telling us stories that if we don’t ask in a certain way that we won’t fit in, that we won’t be accepted into a group. And when we lived in little clans and small remote areas were separated and not mobile. And the only way that we communicate with people is face to face, that was definitely something that you really had to consider. But now you can communicate with people and connect with people online. Now you can connect with people across the world. And that’s also become a double edged sword because people start to only consider the people that think just like them, they start to think of themselves as separate from other humans from humanity, that this is there in the others are just others, someone that they shouldn’t consider. And it’s a balancing act. You have to understand that you’re part of a community, but also have the courage to speak for yourself to actually be who you are. I think society through media has created a way to Limit people to stop people from being themselves. And it’s starting to come to a point where people are tired. They don’t want to live by someone else’s expectations. They don’t want to live by someone else’s rules. And in fact, that’s what this podcast is all about. It’s about finding who you are, and living by who you are. It’s about defining who you are and not letting anyone else define you. It’s about finding your voice and letting people hear it. There’s been a system in place to silence you, to stop you from making a change, to continue in a box so that everyone knows what to expect from you to limit your beliefs. So you’re always afraid and when you’re afraid you’re easy to control. Don’t do that. Don’t think that you’re not going to be part of the community. Don’t act like that. No one’s gonna like you. And yes, if you’re a jerk to everybody, sure, nobody’s gonna like you. But if you Speaking about who you are at the very core of you, if you hold that principle in front of you, and speak from that point, the people that are going to like you or the people that you want to like you, they’re going to be the people that you’d like to hang out with. So don’t limit who you are because you’re afraid. And I’m talking about the core of who you are. I’m not talking about pleasure seekers and pleasers. I’m talking about people when they get down to the very core of who they are, and speak from there, they become vulnerable. You don’t speak about being tough, speak about struggling and overcoming. It’s about sharing with people, your vulnerabilities, your imperfections, and not always being right. It’s about owning your actions, and owning your thoughts. Become courageous and share who you are. And when you do that, you’ll be amazed. So People yes will run away because they’re afraid to they’re afraid to share who they are. But don’