She ran a national team. Then she fell asleep on the couch.
Sue West spent close to a decade at the top of a senior research leadership role in Melbourne — the kind of job she used to love, full of travel and purpose. Underneath it, she was single-parenting three kids, caring for sick elderly parents, and working 14 to 15 hour days. Then COVID took away everything that had kept her going, and left just the grind.
About a year in, it happened. Mid-afternoon, sitting bolt upright on the couch, Sue fell asleep — and her own teenage son walked in and caught her. She calls herself "the leader of the pack." The mother. Asleep in the middle of a workday. It's the moment she asks herself: what the heck am I doing with my life?
She sat with that question for nearly a year before she did anything about it. When she finally moved, she gave herself one hour a day, seven days a week, for 90 days — just to explore what might come next. No pressure to have the answer straight away, just the commitment to keep showing up.
Today Sue runs two coaching businesses: Flourish After Fifty, for women over 50 navigating career and life transitions, and a second practice coaching senior academics at more than 16 Australian universities.
In this conversation:
◼️ A decade at the top of a national research leadership role in Melbourne
◼️ Single-parenting three kids while caring for sick elderly parents
◼️ What COVID took away — and what it left behind
◼️ Falling asleep on the couch in the middle of the day, and the moment her son walked in
◼️ Where the shame came from: success scripts, her father, and never talking about feelings
◼️ The 90-day practice: one hour a day, seven days a week, to figure out what came next
◼️ Rating her own life a 4 out of 10 — at the top of an outwardly successful career
◼️ Building two coaching businesses from scratch in her fifties — now working with women across Australia and academics at 16 universities
By the end of this conversation, you'll understand how a nap on the couch became the moment a senior leader decided to rebuild her entire career and identity in her fifties.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 Cold open — "What the heck am I doing with my life?"
0:59 Welcome to Feck It, No More
1:45 Sue introduces herself
2:29 Top of the career: a national research role in Melbourne
3:37 COVID strips away the parts of the job she loved
6:09 "I kind of ran out of steam"
11:50 The lead-up to the Feck It moment
12:51 Asleep on the couch — her son walks in
14:02 Where the shame came from: success scripts and her father
17:01 How long the whisper had been building: "at least a year"
19:06 The 90-day practice: one hour a day, seven days a week
39:44 Rating her own life: a 4 out of 10
52:27 Perfectionism, self-esteem, and where it comes from
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