Lonely ListeningWhen you're suffering from the blues and feeling lonesome, music beckons. The fulfillment found in crying your miserable eyes out to a song that says exactly how you feel? Oh, so cathartic, so miserably satisfying.Even if it's bad for you. People "should not listen to music similar to their emotional state," says Lisa Phillips, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Cognitive Therapy Orange County, "unless it is happy [or the] song has a hopeful message to it.