This reflection is about an extraverted feeler (INFJ) wanting access to my introverted feeling (INTJ), especially since it's third in my stack. In this reflection I talk about insecurities around abandonment and rejection and how I am no longer governed by these insecurities. I also talk about my analytical preference and the role it plays in protecting my introverted feelings. Finally, I talk briefly about the burden of being an Ni dom and how people do not like being on the receiving end of Ni observations. Random note: the core value of this reflection is in talking about the difference between being a cognitive partner and being an advisor and the fluidity (or not) of moving in-between those two roles.