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We begin this week of our self-discovery journey by exploring emotional intelligence.
Being able to accurately and honestly identify our emotions helps us come back into the present moment by grounding ourselves in our body, assessing our needs, managing reactions with self-awareness, and engaging in more thoughtful decision-making. This is "Emotional Intelligence". Despite the fact that the words "feelings" and "emotions" get used interchangeably they are actually two different, connected, phenomena.
Emotions are the raw data, a reaction to the present reality which generally manifests as a physical/body sensation such as a change in breathing, butterflies in your stomach, sweating, etc.
Once the body speaks we make a "value judgment" based on these sensations. A "value judgment" is a rapid interpretation of the experience followed by our response (hide, step forward, yell, run, etc.). These responses can be valuable information for self-discovery once a pattern is observed.
Feelings manifest first as a thought (sometimes a thought about the emotion we are experiencing). They are an emotional manifestation of conditioning, perceptions, and beliefs. They may be influenced by emotion but our feelings can be distorted or diluted by stories we’ve created in our head based on events of the past or fears of the future—not necessarily the truth of the situation. With practice, we can ask "Is this true?" "Have I correctly identified this feeling place or the emotion connected to it?" and look carefully at how the feeling place is serving you, how often you feel it, and what experiences trigger it.
Listening to our body, informed by our sense perceptions, helps us connect to the reality of our present experience rather than to stories made up of potentially inaccurate perceptions. By becoming adept at honestly identifying our emotions and employing both curiosity and a lack of judgment we can become "emotionally intelligent".
Let's begin...