Emotionally Healthy Relationships
Fighting Cleanly
Pastor Michael Seto

You can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature

Fight Cleanly - the ability to pursue peace (Ephesians 4:25-32)

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4 Comparisons:

Genuine relationships (v.25, 32)
Genuine feelings (v. 26, 31)
Genuine spirit (v. 27, 30)
Genuine action (v. 28, 29)

Conflict isn’t a possibility it’s a certainty

Be your genuine self.

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Ways to approach conflict:

1. Don’t fight (Jeremiah 6:14)
2. Fight dirty
3. Fight cleanly

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7 Steps to Fight Cleanly

1. Ask for permission (Speaker)
2. State why it is important to you (Speaker)
3. Fill in the following sentence “When you…I feel” (Speaker)
4. State your request clearly, respectfully and specifically (Speaker)
5. Consider the request & state your level of agreement (Listener)
6. Agree to the request or offer an alternative (Speaker)
7. Review the agreement now and then again in 2 - 4 weeks (Speaker & Listener)