The Word tells us that we wrestle not against flesh and blood...but principalities (Ephesians 6 NKJV). So...the battle you're fighting is not against someone else or what they did! It's not against God either, because He will not tempt us, nor with evil for that matter.  It very well could be you are fighting against your very own principles because what you used to do and are used to doing is contrary to what God is asking of you now....