Evelyn discusses the harder to reognize but easy to normal abuses that can plague marraiges. These are often the abuses we put up with and accept or ignore, they're the ones that might feel off but we can't always pick out why that is.  Neglect is often the most ignored abuse that happens with sexually compulsive behaviours and addictions. Sometimes it gets labeled as intimacy annorexia or love addictions or the like, but it can also sneak under the radar of recovery and be left to do damage instead of learning how to grow in intimacy and love after recovery.