Find Your Feminine Fire

Ever feel like you're the only one struggling to keep it all together?

Like everyone else has their life perfectly curated while you're just trying to make it through another day of anxiety, overthinking, and that nagging feeling that you should be "doing better"?

I have a gift for you.

This week on the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I sat down with accidental poet JK Kennedy, who turned her darkest moments into something unexpectedly beautiful.

This isn't your typical "overcome adversity" story.

It's raw. It's real. And it might just change how you see your own struggles.

In this soul-stirring conversation, you'll discover:

• How hitting rock bottom led to an unexpected creative awakening that transformed one woman's life
• Why expressing your "mess" through creativity might be the most powerful path to healing
• The surprising connection between anxiety and creativity, and how to channel nervous energy into artistic expression
• What it really means to slow down and "rewild" yourself in a world that never stops
• How sharing vulnerable truths can create profound connections and remind us we're not alone

If you've been feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you're the only one struggling to find beauty in the mess... this episode is for you.

Ready to explore your own creative awakening? Listen to the full episode and discover how embracing your authentic voice – in all its clumsy beauty – might just be the key to unlocking deeper connection with yourself and others. Find "Clumsy Beauty" by J.K Kennedy at major retailers and follow her journey of continued discovery at @jkkennedywrites on Instagram.

In this soul-nourishing episode, I sit down with my dear friend Casey Aksoy to explore how something as simple as our breath can transform our relationship with pleasure, presence, and power.

As busy women and mothers, we often find ourselves running on empty, disconnected from our bodies and our desires. Casey shares how conscious breathwork can be our pathway back to embodied wisdom and sensual aliveness - without adding another lengthy practice to our already full plates.

 In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why traditional "self-care" advice often fails busy mothers (and what actually works)

• A simple 3-minute morning practice that can shift your entire day

• How to find magic and pleasure in the "mundane" moments of life

• The profound difference between mediocrity and presence

• Why community and witnessing are essential for our transformation

Casey reveals her powerful personal story of using breathwork to move through fertility challenges and reconnect with her innate wholeness. She offers a beautiful perspective on how we can use our breath to transform everyday moments into opportunities for presence and pleasure.

For the busy visionary who feels called to more but doesn't need another item on her to-do list - this episode offers practical wisdom for accessing deeper states of embodiment and pleasure through the simple power of breath.

Find out more and connect with Casey HERE: https://www.soulfulbreathingexperience.com/

Are you ready to finally break free from the patterns holding you back from authentic pleasure and confidence? In this episode, I’m unpacking the often-hidden role of “Good Girl” conditioning—the messages telling us to stay small, to please others, and to suppress our true desires.

You’ll discover how this conditioning not only impacts our relationships and self-worth but deeply affects our experience of pleasure and intimacy. Whether you’ve struggled with people-pleasing, hesitated to voice your needs, or felt numbness and disconnection in intimate moments, this episode is an invitation to reclaim your power and let go of outdated habits that no longer serve you.

• Understanding “Good Girl” Conditioning: Discover how these messages shape your life and relationships, keeping you in patterns of people-pleasing and self-censorship.

• How Good Girl Conditioning Affects Your Body and Sexuality: Learn how “freeze” responses can block pleasure, leaving you feeling numb, detached, or unable to fully engage.

• Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Pleasure and Authenticity: From grounding exercises to powerful scripts for talking with your partner, I offer practical tools to help you break free from these patterns.

• Creating a New Foundation of Trust and Pleasure: Hear how releasing these old habits can deepen your connection with yourself and others, allowing for richer, more fulfilling experiences in all areas of life.

If you’re ready to silence the “Good Girl” in your mind and step into your most authentic, pleasure-filled self, this episode is for you!

💥 Ready to go even deeper? Download Amanda’s Good Girl Graveyard Ritual—a fun, transformative ceremony designed to help you let go of those outdated “Good Girl” patterns, reconnect with your true self, and invite more freedom and joy into your life. Head to www.amandatesta.com/good-girl to grab your free ritual!

I'm beyond thrilled to welcome back to the pod, the brilliant Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of the groundbreaking books "Come As You Are" and her newest release "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections."

In this intimate and enlightening episode, Emily breaks down what it really takes to maintain a vibrant sexual connection in long-term relationships – and it might not be what you think!

We dive deep into:

• The 7 emotional "rooms" that influence our sexual experiences • Why pleasure matters more than desire • How to navigate body changes and transitions while maintaining intimacy • The surprising truth about what makes sex "magnificent" (hint: it's not what most people assume!)

Emily also shares her own experiences, including how writing her books impacted her personal relationships and what she learned about rekindling intimate connections during challenging times. Her practical wisdom about navigating perimenopause, body image, and relationship transitions is both validating and empowering.

For anyone struggling to find their way to pleasure in these challenging times (and let's be honest - when isn't it "these times"?), this episode offers hope, practical tools, and permission to prioritize pleasure as essential nourishment for our relationships and wellbeing.

Whether you're in a long-term partnership or simply want to better understand your own sexual wellbeing, this conversation offers invaluable insights about creating lasting intimate connections that can weather life's many changes.

Ready to transform your intimate life? Listen to the full episode above, and don't forget to check out Emily's new book "Come Together" for even more wisdom about creating the sexual connection you desire.

Links Mentioned:

• Find more from Dr. Emily Nagoski at EmilyNagoski.com and sign up for her newsletter!

• Books: Come As You Are, Burnout, and Come Together

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship, head over to www.amandatesta.com/thegoods to get started.

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In this episode, I'm diving into something we all need to be talking about: workaholism and how it’s blocking your sensuality and joy. Overworking doesn’t just take a toll on your schedule; it sneaks into your personal life, dims your pleasure, and even messes with your creativity and sex life.

As high-achieving women, we're often juggling so many creative projects, a business that we're passionate about, as well as hustling to keep up with the daily grind ... and because we're passionate and love what we do, it can be easy to fall prey to over-working without realizing how it's blocking our feminine fire and creative flow . 

In this episode I'll share my own experiences and draw from client stories, to give you clear examples of how workaholism can show up, and leave you with practical (and fun!) ways to reclaim your time, pleasure, and creativity. Listen in to break free from the constant grind and reconnect with what really matters—your relationships, your pleasure, and your radiant feminine energy.

What will you discover in this week's episode? 

•  5 tell-tale signs you’re unconsciously prioritizing work over love and connection

• The hidden reasons we overwork (spoiler: it’s not just the paycheck)

• How workaholism blocks your feminine fire and creative flow

• Practical, fun ways to reset your priorities and reclaim your time and pleasure

• The magical “embodied photo” practice to savor life’s moments without always documenting them

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If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship, head over to www.amandatesta.com/thegoods to get started.

Sign up here to receive your complimentary Sensual Self Discovery Kit Journal, Self Love Meditation, and Activation Practice

If you're aching to feel madly alive, deeply empowered and wildly magnetic, but you've been too afraid to explore your "dark" desires - or too damn busy - then you need to devour the latest Find Your Feminine Fire episode stat.

This week I’m talking kink, pleasure and power with my friend and somatic Sex and Relationship Coach Faith Laux, a former "good girl" turned pioneering thought leader on a mission to help visionary women like you radically reclaim your erotic aliveness.

In this raw, revelatory episode, Faith vulnerably shares how a life-shattering cancer diagnosis became the catalyst to finally embrace her kinky truth - and how doing so unleashed a profound journey of embodied healing and energetic awakening beyond her wildest dreams.

Now she guides other powerhouse women to harness conscious kink to embody their aliveness and shamelessly live from their deep desiresFaith seeks to normalize the conversation around sexuality, kink, aging, illness and desire. 

No matter how buried your desires are, this episode will give you the permission slip you've been craving to:

• Unshame your cravings and love your full self fiercely

• Safely explore your kinky side even if you are in a “vanilla” relationship

• Use "taboo" play to heal old wounds and expand your energy

• Prioritize deep pleasure and presence as a busy, ambitious woman ...and so much more.

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If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship, head over to www.amandatesta.com/thegoods to get started.

Sign up here to receive your complimentary Sensual Self Discovery Kit Journal, Self Love Meditation, and Activation Practice

In this episode, I'm talking with Kelly Noble, a quantum business coach and wealth activator, about helping women claim the wealth they deserve. Kelly opens up about her journey from the high-pressure corporate world, how she overcame personal challenges, and now helps women activate wealth on all levels. 

We dive into the idea of "getting paid just for being you," using personal stories, visualizations, and more to boost self-worth and attract abundance. Kelly talks about how women can lead, manage wealth, and make a big impact, while also breaking free from society’s limiting beliefs about money. They also cover why it’s key to align your business goals with who you really are and what makes you happy.

Key Takeaways from this Episode:

• Women and historically marginalized people deserve to be paid for their contributions: Kelly emphasizes the importance of women claiming the wealth they’re entitled to.

• Getting paid just for being you: Kelly introduces the idea that self-worth and abundance can come from simply existing and embracing who you are.

• Breaking societal conditioning around money: Overcoming limiting beliefs about money, especially those ingrained by society, is key to wealth creation.

• Aligning goals with identity and joy: It's essential to match entrepreneurial goals with who you truly are and what brings you happiness for long-term success.

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If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship, head over to www.amandatesta.com/thegoods to get started.

Sign up here to receive your complimentary Sensual Self Discovery Kit Journal, Self Love Meditation, and Activation Practice

In this episode of the *Find Your Feminine Fire* podcast, Amanda talks about how important it is to find moments of pleasure, even when the world or your personal life feels tough. She explains that pleasure isn’t just a nice thing to have, but actually helps with healing from trauma by building resilience. 

Amanda shares simple, body-based practices that can calm the nervous system, focusing on small, sensory experiences and the value of having support. The episode also offers practical tips for bringing more pleasure into your everyday routine, encouraging listeners to see joy as a powerful way to resist and stay hopeful, even when things get hard.

Key Takeaways:

• Pleasure isn't just a luxury: It's actually a tool for resilience, especially during tough times. Enjoying small moments of joy helps us heal and navigate challenges with more grace.

• Stress messes with your nervous system: Trauma can throw us into "fight, flight, or freeze" mode, making it hard to feel anything good. But gently inviting pleasure back into your life helps your body regain balance.

• Start small: Look for little moments of pleasure, like enjoying your coffee or taking a deep breath. These tiny joys can add up and help calm your nervous system over time.

• Your body knows what it needs: Pay attention to how your body feels, and move towards things that feel good in a gentle way. Whether it’s petting your dog or just swaying to music, small positive actions help restore a sense of safety.

• Pleasure is a radical act: In hard times, choosing joy isn’t about ignoring pain—it's about balancing it. Finding pockets of pleasure is a way to remind yourself that there’s still goodness, even when things feel dark.

• Grab the free resources to support feeling safe when the world is scary HERE.

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This episode is your beacon of hope and empowerment. Prepare to have your perspective completely revolutionized as we explore menopause not as a crisis, but as a sacred rite of passage into leadership, power, and profound transformation.

In this episode, I'm thrilled to introduce you to two visionary pioneers in the field of menstruality: Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, founders of Red School with 45 years of combined experience. 

We dive deep into their groundbreaking new book, "Wise Power: Discovering the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose, and Belonging." What you'll discover in this episode: 

♥️ Redefining menopause: Discover how this transition is not an ending, but a powerful awakening and expansion of consciousness.

♥️ The 5 phases of menopause: Learn about the archetypal journey through menopause, providing a map to navigate this transformative process with dignity and understanding.

♥️ Embracing the 'undoing': Understand why feeling undone is a natural and necessary part of the menopausal journey, leading to profound self-discovery.

♥️ The importance of rest and repair: Explore why slowing down and allowing yourself time for deep healing is crucial during this phase of life.

♥️ Awakening to a new power: Gain insights into how menopause can deliver you home to yourself, helping you step into your true authority and purpose.

This episode is a must-listen for any woman who wants to approach menopause with confidence, embrace her evolving rhythms, and catalyze a deep transformation that will ripple through every aspect of her life.

Tune in to unlock the secrets of this sacred rite of passage and discover how you can harness the liberating power of menopause to awaken your innate wisdom, authority, and sense of belonging.

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If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship, head over to www.amandatesta.com/thegoods to get started.

Sign up here to receive your complimentary Sensual Self Discovery Kit Journal, Self Love Meditation, and Activation Practice

In this week's powerful conclusion to our six-part pod series on sex, creativity, and power, we're diving deep into the profound connection between sexuality, creativity, and spirituality. As women who've achieved so much in our careers, it's easy to neglect our intimate lives and creative expression. But I'm here to tell you - rekindling that fire is not just possible, it's essential for your overall wellbeing and continued success.

What will you discover in this week's episode? 

• The divine spark connecting sexuality and creativity to spirituality

• Flow state: what it is and how to achieve it in both creative and sexual experiences

• Sacred sexuality: deepening devotion and connection to a higher power

• The 'Sacred Gardener' blueprint for nourishing our roots and co-creating healthy ecosystems

• Impact of colonization and capitalism on our relationship with our bodies and creativity

• Sustainable practices for growth and avoiding burnout

• Visualization exercise for embodying your vibrant, passionate self

As someone who's walked this path, I understand the unique challenges you face as a high-achieving woman. Balancing a successful career with personal fulfillment isn't easy, but it's absolutely achievable. This episode will provide you with practical tools and deep insights to help you reconnect with your innermost desires and 10x your sensual experiences.  Don't forget to download the FREE bonus materials to accompany the podcast HERE! Much love,  Amanda